Originally Posted by SamuraiGuy

I think knowing the person has alot to do with it as well, or for some reason caring about their physical well being, at one point that goes out the window, UFC etc. Whenever grappling with people I dont want to hurt, I tend to go just as hard to put people into submissions or holds, but always slack off on teh submission.

For example whenever I'm choking somoene I know, brother, friend, I always start to choke them, then relax the choke, and say, you better tap out or ill mess you up. I really dont want to knock these people out, or injure their necks/whatever, if the choke involves torquing the neck. Generally when I relax the choke they have a chance to escape, this just leads to more competition though which I like, I've only submitted my brother once, and there were many times, such as fully locked on armbars, that I could have made him do it, but didnt want to hurt, him. Hes older BTW, im not kicking the crap out of someone smaller then me.

In contrast to that , some people just dont care, for instance one day I was walking up my stairs and my older sister jumped out and slapped a basic sleeper hold on me, I woke up on the bathroom floor, that crazy bitch has no care for my well being!