Originally Posted by 7yearsjudoka

I try to be wise and follow my own advice but many times I have not followed it. I cannot deny that I enjoy to fight. But I also cannot deny the fact that when I do fight I am merciful. I have had only 1 real fight and I have only ever once given somebody a black eye. Although I enjoy fights I also try quite hard to avoid them unless I feel I really do need to fight.

I think most people need to realise (I admit I stumble here sometimes) a fight is not about reclaiming or getting honour or respect. It's about defending yourself or somebody else from a dangerous situation. I think many people stumble on that and therefore have a warped idea of justifiable force depending on the situation. Or they do not apply the concept of justifiable force to all situations.