I agree wholeheartedly with what you have said.
I see it too often in my life as well, where people would rather tell themselves that they can't do something as if that alone justifies them not doing it.
Then there are people who constantly seek approval and praise for trivial things and thoughts, and would use discouragement or low self-esteem as their excuse as to why they can't.
I have had to explain to a young man a few months older than myself that his insecurity shows very often, and he seemed so suprised that it even showed at all (he likes to talk about fights he's been in, or scared his opponents out of). He then went on to tell how his childhood was hard and he was raised by 3 women and so he feels the need to be nurtured. I told him that if he is going to function as a man he has to quit lying to himself and start taking responsibility for his decisions. There's no I can't from him, normally he'll start something and then quit it (for justified personal preference reasons).
Someone else close to me made a few comments within a couple day timespan about how other people were effecting her self esteem. I told her that self-esteem is a self influenced issue and not an external influenced issue. Things like not getting employee of the month or seeing someone else receive flowers made her feel low self-esteem. We should all know that we are responsible for our own self esteem. It is not how someone else makes you feel, it is how you allow others to affect you that determines your self esteem. There is a point where living up to other's expectations is just selling yourself short. You could go far beyond their wildest dreams if you just dare.
Then there are those who don't understand when a person actually has discipline. Sure they watch Rocky and think how great it must feel to be a champion, but when they see someone actually training they call it not having a life, and being wierd, and being anti-social, or self-centered. They totally avoid the discipline and feel better for making it seem not desireable.
I recently read an analogy that I liked from a martial arts training book. In summary it basically says that there are 3 types of people in this world: sheep, wolves, and sheepdogs. Wolves hunt and prey on the sheep, sheepdogs lead and protect the sheep, and sheep just sit around in denial thinking that their life will never chainge and nothing will ever happen to them.
I guess that some things will never change.
On that note, I would like to take this opportunity to say well done and keep up the good work to all the sheepdogs out there.
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The usefulness of the cup is in its emptiness - Bruce Lee
He who would become what he wants to be, must cease to be what he is. - Meister Eckhart
The better we know ourselves, the less we critisize others. - unknown
People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of thier character - Ralf Waldo Emmerson
DAAaamn... you got knocked da #$%& out, MAN!!! - Smokey
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