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Originally Posted by Arath
hmm, as for this 'self defence is not a solution' - I think I already said that it's rather a grey area - can you afford to be so certain of yourselves? I'm not. I offer it as a possible solution that would work in some cases. I HAVE taught dozens of girls and that in the east (you know what the culture is like there, totally male-dominant), and I've got good results in a good percentage of cases. That's just what every psycho-therapist hopes for too. You can't provide an answer to everyone's problems, but if you even have a good batting average, it's not a bad thing, is it? And I have the feeling that those who SD wouldn't benefit won't even be coming forward to take my course, you know (this is an important point). As for those that it would - hmm, since when has it been bad to hit back effectively at a bully? One thing I'll tell you - not fighting back in the hope you won't be hurt worse, is just about the worst SD advice you can give anyone. And it's just as good a way of escalating violence, as the bully perceives no resistance to his behaviour.
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True.
To a point.
My point is, running is by far the oldest form of Self Defense.
You are talking bully, I am thinking domestic abuse. Of course standing up for yourself tends to nip the matter...but you can't let is escalate first and then hope for a magic cure!
My point is, getting out of the situation ought to be the fist step (OK, if MA helps you to grow the back bone needed, all the better) hitting back is the second.
If the situation has escalted to a point where easing off is a success, it has reache proportions where fighting back could very well blow up in ones face!
Statisticaly women are at risk the most right after a break up...an I mean for being killed.
I am not knocking your project...I am just wondering. It is a tricky subject, after all.
(but do go ahead and start a discussion...after all, that's what this place is here for!)