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Old 01-04-2007, 03:49 PM   #37 (permalink)
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Nobody, and I mean ABSO-F@#!IN'-LUTELY NOBODY deserves to be put on a pedestal because we've all got our issues and flaws.
Some women (in my life) deserve to be put on a pedestal, Lu, in spite of her flaws.

Women have flaws. These flaws are particular to the woman involved - but as long as these flaws are not functionally destructive to a healthy relationship AND she's a beautiful, gracious and loving person - she deserves it in my book.

If she earns the pedasatal - and by earn I mean its just part of her inherent good, kind-hearted nature, she deserves it.

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It's just not fair to the other person because they're only human so inevitably they will fall short of your expectations. That goes double for members of the opposite sex because if you're putting them on a pedestal than you're not being honest with yourself about who they really are. .
Lu, I've been lucky enough to really get to know a special woman at one time. In exchange, this person got to know me.

I cannot begin to describe how genuine, honest and loving she was. I took the good with the bad and have to say the good outweighed it by far.

I'll initially give a woman the benefit of the doubt cause I'm a nice guy. And if being a good natured, reciprocating guy ain't enough for her, I'll be man enough to step up and say its not going to work.

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If you can't accept them for who they are (just as flawed and screwed up in their own way as every other human being) than you're not in love with them, you're in love with the *idea* of who you want them to be. That always leads to heart ache and hard feelings.
Accepting this woman for who she is was the easiest part, Lu.

She was just that good of a person. I won't get into more personal stuff, but I'll say in terms of overall relationship quality she was just a cut above.


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*Walks off whistling "My Angel is a Centerfold" by J. Geils Band*
Proper.

She used to get stopped by scouts from modelling agencies at the mall and at major events.
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