Just to give you an idea of demographics, my boyfriend and I have both been doing BJJ for nearly 5 years. I started a couple of months before him, but had a lot of time off due to some surgery and now because I'm pregnant. He's a 2-stripe purble belt, I'm a 3-stripe blue, so he outranks me.
However, I've been doing martial arts for 16 years - I started karate back when I was an impressionable teen LOL! I've also trained in Judo, TKD (very briefly), karate in another country (USA), aikido, arnis, and Japanese weapons. So I have much more "martial arts" experience than my boyfriend, even though he can tear strips of me on the mat at BJJ LOL!
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