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Little Apple · 12-06-2007, 10:51 PM

I would say that it is very important to watch out for your new fighters. Confidence is essential, and becoming "glove shy," as you put it, is tricky to undo. However, this is where the difference between "confidence" and "ego" comes into play: because you also want to challenge your newbies, and every so often let them stretch outside their range (partner wise). To build and protect confidence, and yet still challenge them, you need to vary the skill level of their partners. This has nothing to do with gender.

I feel that it only pampers their ego never to let them be beaten by a girl. That in itself has nothing to do with being a good fighter. The confidence to get out there, lay it down, and keep going after a beating is important. Some kind of "girls are glass, and I'm steel" attitude never helped anyone.

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Little Apple Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Oregon Posts: 372 Groans: 0 Groaned at 0 Times in 0 Posts	I would say that it is very important to watch out for your new fighters. Confidence is essential, and becoming "glove shy," as you put it, is tricky to undo. However, this is where the difference between "confidence" and "ego" comes into play: because you also want to challenge your newbies, and every so often let them stretch outside their range (partner wise). To build and protect confidence, and yet still challenge them, you need to vary the skill level of their partners. This has nothing to do with gender. I feel that it only pampers their ego never to let them be beaten by a girl. That in itself has nothing to do with being a good fighter. The confidence to get out there, lay it down, and keep going after a beating is important. Some kind of "girls are glass, and I'm steel" attitude never helped anyone.