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Originally Posted by GranFire
I am not a fan of the 'boy vs girl' form of motivation, though I guess the difference is there and obvious...but neither girl not boy needs to be pampered.
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I never said anything about pampering.
In fact I'm quite pleased in the way my nephew is coming a long in psychological terms. His sense of loyalty and courage is rising - according to what his father tells me. In fact one of my concerns now is that he might have to much confidence in relation to his actual fighting ability. Not many years ago he was willing to flee and was traumatized by one boy, now he is willing to fight a gang of boys in defense of a weaker friend.
His confidence right now I believe is disproportionate to his actual fighting abilities. He has not sparred at all and this is partially why his confidence is where it is at. He's not ready to spar yet, and the problem is if he gets in a street fight he's going to likely find out he's not prepared yet, and if I'm correct about his mind state, he may abandon all and any kind of fight training or knowledge from thence on.
There is nothing wrong with sensitive or shy boys. Groomed right they can develop into young men who in character, personality, and physical ability own the best of both worlds. They will be
lionized, emotionally balanced and tender gentlemen, who can not only step up to do the right thing when it needs to be done but cut, slash, maim, and kill if need be. Rather than dismiss young boys like this you can develop them. It's a choice, and I've made my choice.
Anyways, I'm not so bad... from what I've read about the culture of Brazil, you have some men down there who refuse to allow their wife or any woman to lay hand on their child son (spanking). Their intent being to raise their sons *cocky* - heavy with Latin
machismo. (Of course you have some men in Brazil who will allow their son - if they have not abandoned him - to be sexually abused by other older boys or men)
Talking to me on this is like talking to a brick wall. I will not abandon my nephew to humiliation. Like an NCO in the Corps once came to me basically asking I sell my troops out to a working party of his pleasure just because we're fellow NCO's and happen to have the same rank, "it ain't finna happen," I basically told him, so he had better switch to his next plan. He hated me for the rest of our time at the company.
So it is, so shall it be.