Hiya,
I did have some issues with one group I trained with, pretty much some of the guys treated me like an idiot and felt they needed to explain everything and show me over and over again, so I held pads and they worked the techniques! and others just wanted to beat a woman up and show they where men!
I left this group after putting up with it for about 10months, the main turning point was in a sparring situation where I pretty much just got really hurt by someone and the instructor just stood and watched! this really knocked my confidence in my ability and its taken a long time to get some of that back. I see this instructor from time to time and he is always trying to get me to come back, and that ain’t gotta happen :-)
I now have been training with a great group of guys, we all know each other and know that we will train 100% but help each other as we go, we know each other strengths and weakness and that really means that we are a group who work together. Other times I have had issues have been in seminars, there have been times where I have had prats to train with but generally this is when there are round robins so I put up with it as I know this person will be moving on soon :-) I think sometimes the issue comes from how they view women’s status (i/e are they a beginner/instructor, not that it should make any difference, but hey you have to remember the ego!).
It is always going to be a "hot" topic in any art, and there will always be prats out there, the hope is that if you come across these people you can find another group and move on. There are some really great clubs out there, it’s just trying to find the one which fits you personally, training and allows you to enjoy the time you train, life is busy enough, I say don’t stay at a club that makes you feel bad in anyway.
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