What bothers me a lot in our society, (and I think something in direct correlation with the behaviors of men in the culture) is the fact that our pop culture and prevailing attitudes towards males in our soceity is quite "sexist" not from women, but from ourselves, entertainment industry, the media, etc.
Males in our society are NOT supported to speak out against that which is wrong or damaging in our society. If a man claims that he wishes not to look at "girlie" magazines, or that he thinks strip clubs are damaging to both genders, or that he wishes to focus on writing poetry, or showing emotion during times of stress, or whatever other myriad of things..... he is more than usually downplayed as "gay", "unmasculine", a "girlie man" or any other host of insults, etc.
The society constantly bombards us with pressure and images that we are stupid, lazy, immature can't control ourselves when it comes to sex, sleep around, can't please women unless we're rough and dominant over them, etc.
I think 90% of what is accepted as "what a man is like" in our society is very insulting to men. Not only is it sexist, but I'd say damaging to our perceptions of ourselves over time.
MANY people talk about women's perceptions, women being treated bad, and such. What is NOT talked about is the fact that men are also held to lowly standards, and "patted on the back" for acting immature, sex-crazed, etc.
Men SHOULD be reinforced and supported for taking responsibility for themselves, providing for their families, treating women with respect, disliking things like strip clubs, girlie magazines, etc. They should be appreciated for their ability to think, create, love, protect, be noble, help community, etc. But in most media and pop culture, the opposite is true.
This is not to say the general public doesn't support men who indeed act like "real men," but I think (and it seems hard to argue) that the prevelant (and growing) attitude towards us in this society is that the "real man" is the beer-swinging, strip-bar a-going, sex-starved, overly aggressive male, who doesn't take "shit from no one"
I think there should be A LOT more focus on de"mystifying" the stereotypes plauging men as much as there is plaguing women.
Men, are NOT the evil villians they're made out to be. But if society keeps reinforcing negative and unethical stereotypes of the man, many will probably feel the need to fit that stereotype.
Positive male roles in society are extremely needed in our society.
Ryu