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Kirves · 08-13-2003, 08:21 AM

Many people flock to the martial arts because of some kind of self esteem or self confidence problems. Proper physical training that trains them to fight realistically with physically resisting opponents, gives them confidence because they see themselves doing something against a resisting and aggressive person. But sadly, too often the people who need this the most, the people with the lowest self esteems, are the easiest prey to the McDojo's and other martial systems that lack this very concept of sparring and training against resisting opponents. The thin and weak nerds look for the "magic" way to be able to beat up any large and athletic bully. I know, I was like that in my teens. I went for all the exotic systems and all the pressure points I could find. But it never gave me the feeling of confidence, and now later I have found out why: because I never actually tested myself against a large and aggressive person, so there was constant doubt deep in my heart about wether or not I actually could fight such a person. Now, after only few months of Kyokushin karate training, I have started to value full contact sparring very much. Now I'm looking into some NHB/MMA styles to round up my skill set, but never again will I go for a style that doesn't have good ol' contact sparring. That is some of the best spiritual training a weakling can get. The truth is in the doing. Doing builds confidence and esteem. And they are requirements for good fighting spirit. And you can't fight without proper spirit.

08-13-2003, 08:21 AM	#3 (permalink)
Kirves Registered User Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Finland Posts: 143 Groans: 0 Groaned at 0 Times in 0 Posts	Many people flock to the martial arts because of some kind of self esteem or self confidence problems. Proper physical training that trains them to fight realistically with physically resisting opponents, gives them confidence because they see themselves doing something against a resisting and aggressive person. But sadly, too often the people who need this the most, the people with the lowest self esteems, are the easiest prey to the McDojo's and other martial systems that lack this very concept of sparring and training against resisting opponents. The thin and weak nerds look for the "magic" way to be able to beat up any large and athletic bully. I know, I was like that in my teens. I went for all the exotic systems and all the pressure points I could find. But it never gave me the feeling of confidence, and now later I have found out why: because I never actually tested myself against a large and aggressive person, so there was constant doubt deep in my heart about wether or not I actually could fight such a person. Now, after only few months of Kyokushin karate training, I have started to value full contact sparring very much. Now I'm looking into some NHB/MMA styles to round up my skill set, but never again will I go for a style that doesn't have good ol' contact sparring. That is some of the best spiritual training a weakling can get. The truth is in the doing. Doing builds confidence and esteem. And they are requirements for good fighting spirit. And you can't fight without proper spirit. __________________ Why men are men, and rats are rats? Because rats got to choose first. Last edited by Kirves; 08-13-2003 at 08:24 AM.