Yeah, really it's just one guy that talks a LOT and makes himself look important, so the other guys feel they have to follow that example. When they're joking around, sometimes I try to joke around just to be social, but they seem to ignore me. I don't even get a courtesy laugh! >.< Or they don't get my sense of humor at all. It's lame.
The class is REALLY casual, and I'm really the only new student, while all the rest are more advanced white belts and blue belts. So it IS understandable that they would not want to roll with me because they'd rather be advancing themselves. And it IS understandable that the instructor would rather pair me with someone more my size than one of these big guys. I'm 5'2, 128lb, I mean. A couple classes in a row I kept getting paired with the only other female student and we were getting kind of annoyed about it, but ....it's just understandable. It is more beneficial to ME to be training with someone my own size, ya know?
And to be truthful, I train for free because Mr. Heel Hook is a good friend of the instructor. The instructor really wants us to be there, too. So, what is there really to complain about? Well obviously, I'm complaining, but who else gets classes for free?? The instructor knows those guys have shitty attitudes but it seems like he prefers to stay out of their BSing and just stick to teaching GJJ - and if they don't learn anything cause they're goofing off, that's their own fault.
It's a sticky situation, you know? These guys have all been training together for a while. We come along and we're new. Mr. Heel Hook and I were kind of treated like strangers at first, but then he was a bit more accepted because he can tap most of the guys there. Meanwhile, like I said before, they don't really wanna train with me cause I'm a novice and I'm a tiny little chickadee. Only a few times has it happened that we broke up to drill a technique and someone was like "come over here with me." I'm always the last person standing, waiting to find someone to spar with. And if I go up to someone and say "let's try this," I get this reluctance, man! Once, in fact, I was trying this move with someone I did that to, and I was having trouble getting one part, so instead of showing ME how to do it, my partner called over his buddy and did the technique with him to show me. Then they just ended up rolling, once again leaving me by myself. It was so queer.
I don't know. I never really considered talking to the instructor about being ditched all the time. We talked about the guys' attitudes before (with the nonstop yapping,etc), and he expressed that he kinda felt the same way. How lame it is. I mean, every now and again he has to go "hey guys, come on now, pay attention," cause they're still rolling when he has already asked the class for his attention. But he's not gonna waste more time getting these guys to pay attention to him than teaching the people who DO wanna learn. Like I said before, if they don't get it cause they're goofing off, that's their fault. And to me that's totally understandable. But as far as talking to him about getting ditched, I dunno. I think he must not know what to do with me or something. He tried pairing me with the other female in the class, like I said, but I could tell she didn't wanna train with a beginner the WHOLE class, and I feel that.
Stickiness, ya know? :P
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