Close minded

[phenom]

dude forget about it she will never see the light in her eyes her father is the man and you kickin his ass musta pulled a heart muscle start dating a chick who has an understanding for your way of thinking oterwise leave the combat theorys to people who know what your on about cheers

[Britt]

Originally Posted by Tom Yum

My suggestion was to make ammends with take-out boxes of Chinese food, a Bruce Lee vid and maybe UFC 2 so that he could see what the ground game is all about.

Yeah, I'd do something like this. Make nice and let the guy save face.

[kwai chang pain]

It's too bad when you come across people like that (her father) in martial arts because most people in it are really cool. If you train for any length of time you run into people who insist on testing themselves against you and/or
can't handle losing.

The way i see it, he forced your hand. If you feel threatened, you don't have any choice but to react.

[Tom Yum]

Originally Posted by Britt

Yeah, I'd do something like this. Make nice and let the guy save face.

I've got this obsession with takeout Chinese.

Oh man, Mongolian beef (extra spicy), fried tofu in brown sauce with green beans and kung pao chicken.....oooohhhhh!!

[silence_sucks]

I love it how she said you were'nt a 'martial artist' because you used comat effective moves yet a martial art litteraly means 'an art suitable for war'.

[stabbychick]

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[Garland]

Next time, stick your fingers in his eye, throw him to the ground, rain some pain...proceed to bite his ear or his nose, drag him by his hair or balls, or the hair of his balls, to a wall and ram his head into it, and soccer kick him in the face a few times for measure.

Then tell him his daughter swallows, spit on him, and tell him THAT's fighting dirty/streetfighting.

Then use his daughter's D cups for speedbags.

KEEP IT GANGSTA, and KEEP THAT PIMP HAND STRONG.

wu-tang!













(I'm joking...call him, invite him out for dinner (pick up the check) and apologise, stating that the rules for your respective arts are different, and if he wanted a chance to even up, to set the boundaries of what you can and cannot do first.)

[aku aku]

It sounds like you and her father assumed a different set of rules. Did you talk to her father or just to her?

It doesn't sound like the sort of thing a Bruce Lee quote could help. Maybe you could offer to work out with her father, not sparring but trading information or something?

[darrianation]

I have been known to do the unexpected with folks thinking their 4th dan (or whatever) is a sign of omnipotence. I once met a guy who was an Aikido instructor (4th degree balck belt) and we became friends. Once, while playing poker we got onto the subject of throwing a boxer to the ground when he punched. Anyway he said oh, yah, we do that stuff all the time.

So, I said show me. He agreed, but I shot-in for a double leg instead and easily took him down and pinned him. He was pissed, but I made nice and we did it again. He was able to deflect my strike but I took him down again and pinned him. He was pissed.

It’s amazing how things seem to work when they know what you are going to do but go all to crap when the unexpected happens.

[Little Apple]

God boys are funny. But seriously, there's some good advice up here. The main point is, it started between you and her dad, and you're trying to argue it between you and her. Do the dinner thing, do the movie thing, do the teach him some grappling thing, and as much of the history and names of the stuff as you can while you do it thing. If a girl has a good father, that man is a superhero, and if you "best" him, you are the bad guy. Show that you like him and respect him, and that he has the power to learn the stuff you used. Fathers want their daughters to see them as superheros and get funny when you endanger that.

[NuffSpeed]

Print off a list of rules from any real MMA event, and explain that the sport rules are different than what he does. Expand on your art, the evolution of crosstraining, and take the opportunity to share what you do with her pops....... then offer to kick his ass again!

[Thai Bri]

Originally Posted by Mike Brewer

Why does everyone always say that and then get pissed when you beat them with it? For some reason, then it's "You have no honor!!" as they whimper off into the dark.

Hey Mike, are you referring to someone in particular?

[white devil]

God boys are funny. But seriously, there's some good advice up here. The main point is, it started between you and her dad, and you're trying to argue it between you and her. Do the dinner thing, do the movie thing, do the teach him some grappling thing, and as much of the history and names of the stuff as you can while you do it thing. If a girl has a good father, that man is a superhero, and if you "best" him, you are the bad guy. Show that you like him and respect him, and that he has the power to learn the stuff you used. Fathers want their daughters to see them as superheros and get funny when you endanger that.

Little Apple is right..and may I add ; if all you have to do is pretend to get ''beat'' by her dad to continue getting through her pants..Be a man and lose to her dad!You know youre right,why should that stop you from gettin' jiggly wiggly?

[kanik]

I personnally think let/ask him to teach you some things, offer to give him some pointers on how to kick a grapplers ass (damn i h8 fighting grapplers... if only i knew how) but make sure the daughter isnt there when giving advice and is there when learning from him, and pretty much everything else i was gonna say has been said so yeh... peace out.

[Snowman]

Do not challenge him to another sparring match just so you can let him win. He will likely see it as a sign of arrogance and claim that he doesn't want to spar with a cheater. He will say that to prevent himself from looking weak by declining your challenge and to prevent himself from getting hurt again if he accepts your challenge. He is obviously a proud man who was humbled in from of his daughter and your friends. Perhaps we think he could have handled it better, but this is his way and if you want to stay with his daughter, you need to respect his proud way be careful with his fragile ego.

The idea of saying explaining that the rules are different is a good one. All you really have to do is say "I understand from your daughter that you are upset with me...I'm sorry if you felt I cheated, the rules in our arts are different, I meant no disrespect, please accept my apology".

The idea of trying to win the arguement, to say or demonstrate something that will make them see things the way you do, is not worth the effort...you know you are right...you know that anyone (us) who knows anything about MAs knows you are right and now you know why they are reacting the way they need to. Sometimes it takes a stronger man to do what is right for someone else than to do what is right for yourself.