Tom Yum

I don't think there's anything sexist about asking a woman to give a fella a massage, nor cooking a meal - of course I would return the favor.

I appreciate a good massage after hard training, especially from a sweet, attractive gal

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jubaji

How is that sexist?

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kanik

I agree. How in heck is that sexist? But yeah massages are great for relaxation. Also some teas work. I use Tiger balm for really tense neck and shoulders. That helps. Or some other ointment, there are a lot that can be bought and made that would help.

Jace

I guess it just comes from me being jaded and forgetting that there are some non-asshole guys out there that aren't sexist when they say things like that.

I dated a couple of shitty guys in the past who always wanted and never gave anything back who really did believe that a woman's proper place was that whole sterotypical "barefoot and pregnant" thing. How I managed to get out of those relationships without killing them... well, I'm still proud of myself for those.

Tom Yum

The women seem to hover around the sofa for some reason. Why? Probably t.v. - desperate housewives, E.R. and the like...so finding one that likes to get out an play like I do would be a nice change.

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Jace

I understand. I know a lot of guys that don't date who do martial arts. Most of the time they use the excuse of "I don't have time for it". It is like they feel they would have to give up training to find a girl to date. I would argue with them, except I know the amount of time most women require to feel loved and appreciated is astronomical and they aren't very understanding of why their boyfriends want to spend 7 hours a week rolling around on the ground with a bunch of other guys - and *gasp* some girls.

I ended up getting in the reverse situation my freshman year of college. The guy I was dating actually got mad about me doing martial arts - not because of the close bonds with the other guys, but because I put so much time into my training. When I wasn't at school or doing school work, most of the time I was at the dojo. He on the other hand, worked and watched tv (except he actually didn't even watch tv, he downloaded everything and watched it on his computer). That was it.

When me and him started having problems (only some of which were born out of his lack of understanding of my dedication to martial arts) the guys I trained with kept me going strong. One of them actually offered to take me out on a date (jokingly to make me feel better, of course) the day me and the boyfriend broke up.

Now, a year and a half later, me and him are dating and happen to have plenty of time for each other. Granted, a lot of that together time is training or watching martial arts videos, or talking about techniques, but we are both happy with it that way. It is nice to be with someone who holds themselves to similar standards - being fit and active, etc.

kanik

Hey thats cool, its allways good to find somone who you can relate too. I have had break-ups over martial arts. I aint gonna stop doing them, and if a girl doesnt understand then as far as I am concerned she isnt worth my time. I reckon if two partners train together it brings them closer to one another.