Should you defend a friend if it is wrong?

aaronmason · 03-10-2004, 06:49 AM

On many occasions, some of my friends start fights and always expect me to stick up for them it seems. Most of the time I don't and decide that they can sort out their own problems. But if it turns nasty I always help. I often feel sorry for the person fighting them as they are usually not looking for trouble and seem to be nice people... or are they for getting in the situation and fighting? Do you think that it is right to stick up for friends if they started trouble for stupid reasons that are entirely wrong?

guy incognito · 03-10-2004, 08:32 AM

I think you should help you friends even if they are wrong.Smack em around the head later for being d@*ckheads if need be.

TNT · 03-10-2004, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by aaronmason

On many occasions, some of my friends start fights and always expect me to stick up for them it seems. Most of the time I don't and decide that they can sort out their own problems. But if it turns nasty I always help. I often feel sorry for the person fighting them as they are usually not looking for trouble and seem to be nice people... or are they for getting in the situation and fighting? Do you think that it is right to stick up for friends if they started trouble for stupid reasons that are entirely wrong?

Ask yourself what kind of friend would put you in that position?

kengar · 03-10-2004, 09:30 AM

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Ask yourself what kind of friend would put you in that position?

Great answer!

I have been in those situations way back when, and you should really explain to your buddy he needs to cut the shit. I would let him take care of his own mess, but I wouldn't let him get severely injured nor would I try to hurt the other person.

About any other situation I'd take a beating for a friend.

Szczepankiewicz · 03-10-2004, 09:31 AM

A friend like guy incognito I would imagine.

**Thai Bri** · 03-10-2004, 11:24 AM

They need psychiatric help. You need new friends.

**gregimotis** · 03-10-2004, 11:59 AM

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I often feel sorry for the person fighting them as they are usually not looking for trouble and seem to be nice people..

This says it all. If your friends are forcing other people to defend themselves, then you friends deserve 1) an ass kickin', and 2) a night in jail.

If you are helping them, then I'm afraid that you also deserve 1) and 2).

Get new friends.

guy incognito · 03-10-2004, 06:20 PM

Maybe i should elaborate.If my friends have picked a fight for no reason ill step in and break it up(Thats helping them isnt it)I dont think people should go around beating people for no reason.But sometimes your not there when it starts and you have to go and help your friends even if you dont know what started it.Personally my friends dont start shit so if they are fighting i will help them.But maybe i have more loyalty to my friends then some others do.

guy incognito · 03-10-2004, 06:23 PM

Before anyone goes nitpicking over waht i just wrote.Note that I said "IF my friends picked afight for no reason"They dont but IF they did i would help.

mysticdragon · 03-10-2004, 06:34 PM

I THINK WE SHOULD NOT BE GETTING IN ARE FRIENDS STUFF LIKE FIGHTING I MEASN IF THEY START THEY SHOULD END IT THEMSELFS. DO YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. WELL THAT IS WHAT I THINK. BUT OTHER PEOPLE MIGHT THINK DIFFERENT.

mysticdragon · 03-10-2004, 06:58 PM

I read your message and i am not mad. so tell me a little about your self. I read what you wrote and that is nice what you wrote. Why do you think like that if you do not mind me asking.my name is Belinda

mysticdragon · 03-10-2004, 07:02 PM

Sorry for writing all in caps I did not mean to annoy any one.

bye

IPON · 03-10-2004, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by aaronmason

On many occasions, some of my friends start fights and always expect me to stick up for them it seems.

Dude it depends on how close you are with these "friends". I don't want my friends hurt, but at the same time people deserve (and need) to get thier ass handed to them. If the person has mouth like a man and acts like a tough guy, then they should fight their own battles especially the ones they start. I have never asked a friennd to help me in a fight at best it would be to make sure other people didn't jump in. Not really popular way to be, but peer pressure is a bitch and so is a bully.

guy incognito · 03-10-2004, 07:48 PM

Hand to hand relax man i wasnt directing that at you or anyone in particular.If you look in your private message you will have a present from me.

Mysticdragon.I think like that because when i moved away from my home town i had no one to back me up and it was tough.I hated every moment of it.
On a different note I also have a friend whose mouth out runs his abitlity and i always have to tell him to shut it!

Hikage · 03-10-2004, 08:48 PM

ok, here's what I usually tell people I'm out with and have been saying for a while that way there's no surprises:

If you pick the fight, you're on your own. I'm not your body guard.

If someone picks it with you, I'm in.

-Hikage

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03-10-2004, 06:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
aaronmason Registered User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: UK Posts: 12	Should you defend a friend if it is wrong? On many occasions, some of my friends start fights and always expect me to stick up for them it seems. Most of the time I don't and decide that they can sort out their own problems. But if it turns nasty I always help. I often feel sorry for the person fighting them as they are usually not looking for trouble and seem to be nice people... or are they for getting in the situation and fighting? Do you think that it is right to stick up for friends if they started trouble for stupid reasons that are entirely wrong?

03-10-2004, 08:32 AM	#2 (permalink)
guy incognito Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 437	I think you should help you friends even if they are wrong.Smack em around the head later for being d@*ckheads if need be. __________________ You can only win when im not affraid to lose.

03-10-2004, 06:20 PM	#8 (permalink)
guy incognito Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 437	Maybe i should elaborate.If my friends have picked a fight for no reason ill step in and break it up(Thats helping them isnt it)I dont think people should go around beating people for no reason.But sometimes your not there when it starts and you have to go and help your friends even if you dont know what started it.Personally my friends dont start shit so if they are fighting i will help them.But maybe i have more loyalty to my friends then some others do. __________________ You can only win when im not affraid to lose.

03-10-2004, 06:23 PM	#9 (permalink)
guy incognito Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 437	Before anyone goes nitpicking over waht i just wrote.Note that I said "IF my friends picked afight for no reason"They dont but IF they did i would help. __________________ You can only win when im not affraid to lose.

03-10-2004, 09:31 AM	#5 (permalink)
Szczepankiewicz Registered User Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Meridian, ID, USA Posts: 4,109	A friend like guy incognito I would imagine.

03-10-2004, 11:24 AM	#6 (permalink)
Thai Bri Premiere Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 5,423	They need psychiatric help. You need new friends.

03-10-2004, 06:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
mysticdragon Registered User Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 21	No I THINK WE SHOULD NOT BE GETTING IN ARE FRIENDS STUFF LIKE FIGHTING I MEASN IF THEY START THEY SHOULD END IT THEMSELFS. DO YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. WELL THAT IS WHAT I THINK. BUT OTHER PEOPLE MIGHT THINK DIFFERENT.

03-10-2004, 06:58 PM	#11 (permalink)
mysticdragon Registered User Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 21	guy I read your message and i am not mad. so tell me a little about your self. I read what you wrote and that is nice what you wrote. Why do you think like that if you do not mind me asking.my name is Belinda

03-10-2004, 07:02 PM	#12 (permalink)
mysticdragon Registered User Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 21	guy inconito Sorry for writing all in caps I did not mean to annoy any one. bye

03-10-2004, 07:48 PM	#14 (permalink)
guy incognito Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 437	Hand to hand relax man i wasnt directing that at you or anyone in particular.If you look in your private message you will have a present from me. Mysticdragon.I think like that because when i moved away from my home town i had no one to back me up and it was tough.I hated every moment of it. On a different note I also have a friend whose mouth out runs his abitlity and i always have to tell him to shut it! __________________ You can only win when im not affraid to lose.

03-10-2004, 08:48 PM	#15 (permalink)
Hikage Registered User Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Southern PA Posts: 543	ok, here's what I usually tell people I'm out with and have been saying for a while that way there's no surprises: If you pick the fight, you're on your own. I'm not your body guard. If someone picks it with you, I'm in. -Hikage __________________ -=It's like a door open and closed=- -= "Neque porro quisquam est qui dolorem ipsum quia dolor sit amet, consectetur, adipisci velit." =-

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