OctaviousBP

It's either an experienced boxer standing in front of me or not. It is either some one close to my weight, or not. Gender is irrelevant to me. Check out Shadow Boxers for a valuable resource in gender equality.

EmptyneSs

i really dont like the fact that the women i spar with try to go full force with me. alot of times i end up getting pounded because some woman was trying her hardest to hurt me while im going light on them. the girls i spar with dont seem to want to work their techniuqes and speed and form, they instead just wanna wail on the guys. i dont really know wtf this man hating mentality is, but im getting pretty pissed about it. if i was to use full force on these girls i spar with they would get seriiously injured. u all know that in muay thai, the techniques should never be performed at full force during sparring since they can be devastating, thats why i dont think its cool when chicks think its ok for them to do so. i really have no choice but to drop these bitches now, because im not down with risking injury because some chick feels the need to project how tough she is to compensate for her insecurities.

what do u guys think? any of u in similar situations? how do u deal with man hating ho's trying to go full force with u ?

Crys

Broadsword, what is your discription of a 'Real female Martial Artist?'

Broadsword2004

Anyone, male or female, who just "takes martial arts," I wouldn't consider to be a real martial artist. A real martial artist is one who takes extra time to practice their martial art, and conditions properly too (i.e. doesn't get to blackbelt yet can only do 15 pushups or something stupid like that). Actually, a decent instructor wouldn't let that happen in my opinion.

But you know, than thus a real female "martial artist" is a woman who trains hard in martial arts, but usually respects all martial artists, and isn't the type who has to "prove" herself by beating up guys in a dojo.

But she conditions good too as I said, so it's not like she's some small girl pounding on some guy, where, god forbid if the guy hit her like that, she'd drop. In her case, the guy can hit back too.

jubaji

That was a mistake

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HtTKar

How do you know they are going full force? You dont know that. Maybe your just a bitch getting wailed on.

Now instead of working your techniques and skills against them you're just "drop(ing) these bitches now"? Sure you are

If you dont give your opponent upmost respect what do you expect them to do? They will earn your respect. It's not about whether you drop them or they drop you anyways. You need to get over that competitiveness. The only one you should be competitive against is yourself and getting better at what you do, developing your skills etc. Perhaps their manhating on you because you act like you're above sparring women. If your instructor teaches and allows you to spar women, the least you could do is respect that.

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Yinboxer

You arent doing the women any favors for their self defense training if you are "going light" on them because they are girls. If they are attacked on the street and are used to guys "going light" on them, they will be in for a rude awakening. I am not saying that you need to wail the crap out of them, but it would be nice if you would be helpful and give them at least a semi-realistic attack.

As for the girls going full force and wailing the crap out of you, perhaps your defense needs work! Seriously, though, here's a story: After I had been training for about 6 months, my instructor told me that the guys were complaining to him that I hit too hard! He basically told them to give up the macho bullshit and that they should tell me themselves (of course, they didnt). The fact is, I had no idea that I was actually hurting anybody! Years of conditioning to the idea that a girl can't hurt you when she hits you had stuck. Maybe you should let them know, because they might not realize it. It may have nothing to do with her "insecurities." Societal conditioning works both ways. Men can be conditioned to not let a girl KNOW that what she is doing is working (punches, locks, etc.) "I Can't look like a wuss in front of the rest of the guys!" Communication between training partners is essential.

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EmptyneSs

well great post, but ur completely wrong about everything. i respect everyone i spar with and do partner work with, regardless of gender. there are some women though that feel they have something to prove, so they try their hardest to go full force with everyone. its not just me being a bitch as u say, others have complained about the level of force being used by these certain women who think it is acceptable for them to use full force when it isnt. theres no need for someone to go full force on me when im going light on them and trying to work on my technique and skill. if someone wants to go full force on me, fine, but i will do the same. sadly these same women who like to try their hardest to hurt people and go full force with them dont feel its ok for others to go full force on them . there is a double standard. anyway, since u seem to wanna be a dick about things, as well as completely misunderstand what i say, u can do **** urself.

EmptyneSs

nah man. this is a real issue about a few women at my school who act this way, not jsut on me, but on everyone else too, and its a bonafide issue. its not me being sexist, or thinking a girl cant hit hard, or any of the other bs u guys are trying to pin on me. theres a big double standard here, and there are certain people who feel the need to prove something due to ego problems, and insecurities.

jubaji

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[MT]Mike

I have only trained with women once and I did not like it. we were doing controlled sparing and the first woman I worked out with tried to kill me, she was hitting me so hard and being such an ass my instructor (we were visiting his friends school) had to say something to her instructor. And afterwords I had to spar with her friend and I hit her with a weak jab and knocked her down. Needless to say I felt like a bullly. Im not trying to make any generalised statements about training with women, this is just my one experiance. Also an aquaintance of mine trains jui-jitsu at a local school and they have about half girls in his school and he says except for the occasional nudity they have no problems.

OctaviousBP

Do you think that this is a trait limited to women? Because the rest of your posts make it sound like this is the case.

Tom Yum

What kind of jiu-jitsu school is this???










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Yinboxer

I agree 100%. Why should there be a difference? Self defense is self defense. If your school has seperate rules for the women, how are they learning to defend themselves? If they only spar with other women, what is that going to prove? Ability at Point sparring means nothing on the street. Women can develop their technique to be just as effective as a man at defending herself on the street. In the ring where there are rules and boundaries, it is another story. In a real fight, you use all the dirty tricks that would never be allowed in sport fighting.

It is also possible for a woman to develop power that will knock you out of your shoes (Training Iron palm is a good start). I agree that most women lack the power that a man has. This is why it is important to train technique and strike soft targets that don't require a lot of power to be effective.

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HtTKar

Then I apologize for my misunderstanding. Just as you say there are a few women at your school that act this way, I'm sure there are a few guys that do the same. But I see what you're saying...that its a double standard with these women. This is something that affects you personally, at your school, so I can say nothing about that. I just wouldn't dismiss sparring all women in general because a few of them ruin it. It is all about respect. And when you say stuff like this, I hope you understand where I'm coming from.

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