grappling as a woman

[Tom Yum]

Originally Posted by treelizard

Well, I got my best friend to go and she would never be caught dead wrestling or doing ju-jitsu or anything like that. And she got a lot out of it and fought beautifully.

I wonder if girls who are involved in other sports would be more likely to learn fierce determination in addition to being "nice."

What it boils down to is that women need alot of other women to motivate them to do these things.

Why? Because you are comfortable with one another, trust one another and respect one another.

There's that rare gal who is self-confident, just doesn't give a flip and will do it because she want's to do it AND she thinks its cool....nice


This is my kinda woman

[Troll Virus]

Originally Posted by GranFire

Once you are grown, it's a tough lesson to unlearn! Unfortunately, there is some sort of threshhold anxiety that keeps many (way too many) women from exploring this part of their personality!

Interesting and somewhat surprising to hear.
I guess MA in general tends to be very male dominated, yet all the women who've 'stayed the course' that I've encountered, were beyond the average male in terms of mindset.
I'd guess that women, would be less inclined to use MA as a vehicle to 'self develop' than a man would.
I have three female MA friends that I've known for a long time and they're truly exceptional people.

[GranFire]

Originally Posted by Troll Virus

Interesting and somewhat surprising to hear.
I guess MA in general tends to be very male dominated, yet all the women who've 'stayed the course' that I've encountered, were beyond the average male in terms of mindset.
I'd guess that women, would be less inclined to use MA as a vehicle to 'self develop' than a man would.
I have three female MA friends that I've known for a long time and they're truly exceptional people.

Once they get over it, they are there to stay!

I live in the South, and the expectation of what is female is pretty much warped! I get a lot of negative reactions suggesting a girl or woman take MA, like I offered them a turd or something! But the ladies that take with me are the fines!

My friend was also raised in a Mennonite context (not quiet as archaic as the Amish, but right up there) and for her it was very difficult to let go of a half a decade of 'turning the other cheek' indoctrination!

[Troll Virus]

Originally Posted by GranFire

Once they get over it, they are there to stay!

That'd seem to be true.
I'd like to introduce you to others of a similar mindset.

I live in the South, and the expectation of what is female is pretty much warped! I get a lot of negative reactions suggesting a girl or woman take MA, like I offered them a turd or something! But the ladies that take with me are the fines!

Putting that in perspective, I get what you are saying, but your situation is pretty unique to me.
That's not to say it's 'unique' in general, but it's 'unique' to me and something I'll ponder on.
Thank you.

[treelizard]

Originally Posted by Tom Yum

There's that rare gal who is self-confident, just doesn't give a flip and will do it because she want's to do it AND she thinks its cool....nice

Actually, most of the women in the class had already been assaulted.

[GranFire]

Originally Posted by treelizard

Actually, most of the women in the class had already been assaulted.

What a scary thought!

My friend was abused from childhood on and she tells everybody who will listen how therapeutic it is for her to do all those things (We are primary a TKD school, but we started doing some ground work and short stick)

Hell, even little things like the Ki-Haps/yells can have a profound impact!

[treelizard]

Originally Posted by GranFire

Hell, even little things like the Ki-Haps/yells can have a profound impact!

For some reason, I've noticed that this is one of the hardest things to get women to do!! Or even just yelling no without sounding like Mickey Mouse. I'm talking the ones who just go to a WSD class once a year or something.

[Tom Yum]

Originally Posted by treelizard

Actually, most of the women in the class had already been assaulted.

One of my favorite training partners and friends from way back was a fireball of a young lady. She was just the coolest gal I'd ever met! We lived in the same hall and decided to join the Hapkido club. 1/2 of our class was spent on striking pads and striking drills; 1/4 of our class was spent on escapes, the other 1/4 was spent grappling.

She could sub guys!

She wasn't afraid to tangle with anyone, even the 240-lb ers and while her technique wasn't enough to overcome a 200 + lb ers technique AND strength, she could tap out the mediocre 150-170 lb ers and even some of the bigger n00bs who didn't know what they were doing.

[cakegirl]

My karate school has more female black belts than male.

My BJJ school has 4 female students. (3 if you count me out as I'm not training due to pregnancy - but I do go to class once a week and coach the guys from the sidelines LOL!)

[Batucada]

Originally Posted by cakegirl

My BJJ school has 4 female students. (3 if you count me out as I'm not training due to pregnancy - but I do go to class once a week and coach the guys from the sidelines LOL!)

Congratulations cakegirl Take care!

[Tom Yum]

Originally Posted by cakegirl

My karate school has more female black belts than male.

My BJJ school has 4 female students. (3 if you count me out as I'm not training due to pregnancy - but I do go to class once a week and coach the guys from the sidelines LOL!)

Looking at your statement, I'd say either women prefer to train in karate than BJJ or your school was started by a lady karateka. And that Australian women will stay the course in karate - which is why they advance up to black belt.

[cakegirl]

Yes, my school was started by a lady karateka. She has a great history (Australian team, then coaching the Australian team), so the female students who might have been intimidated by a more "macho" school have a great role model.

[Ahsen]

Hey cake girl been a while
Welcome back
Congrats on your pregancy Cake girl do you knw if its a boy or girl ?


There have been some great women, that made it big in the grappling world like:

Shelby Walker
Gazzy Parman
Daynin Allosada
Mumtaz Khan
And of course : Kyra Gracie