MT: Probably leaving my class

[Knowledge Bot]

Probably leaving my class By Flea - 05-11-2009 08:08 AM

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First ... I don't know whether the filter will block the P word, but if it does, would the mods consider letting it stand in this case? It's relevant to my story and not used in a dirty way. If not I fully respect that too.

I've overlooked a lot of locker-room humor in my class and joined in with most of it - I have a wicked sense of humor myself and it's been fun for the most part. But on Saturday our assistant teacher really crossed the line. He was talking about a class he had at the firing range where someone was gripping his gun too tightly. The teacher told this guy that "you should hold your gun like you're holding your penis."

This guy is a total mensch and I know he meant no harm. But how am I not supposed to hear the analogy of Penis As Weapon in this? He knows enough of my story to know better, and the flashbacks that went away after my first month of classes have come back full force since Saturday. Normally I would have addressed this right on the spot, but my other classmates don't need to know my private business. So it's been stuck in my craw since then with nowhere to go. I don't have his number. Worse, I just got an email that this Thursday's class is cancelled so that's a few more days before I can clear the air.

This class means the world to me but I'm not sure I can continue after that. I'd like to but it's just not worth the risk to me of hearing something like that a second time, especially since a major reason I'm there is part of my healing from a penis having been a weapon. It really defeats the purpose for me of going at all. I found another Systema teacher buried deep in the exurbs. It would mean the difference of about 30 miles each way as opposed to the mile and a half I'm driving now, but it may just be worth it.

Am I overreacting here? Normally I'd go directly to the source but I don't have the assistant's number. I could call the teacher, but to me it would feel like tattling. Even though he probably should know about this. I wanted to post this in the Ladies' Locker Room but I'm not a member there yet. I hope this is okay here. I could really use some advice and a cyber hug or two.


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[Happy Cat]

You are overreacting. I am sorry to hear about your situation and trauma.

Despite your trauma the world will keep on spinning and revolving around the sun. The world is not going to adjust to your sensitivities.

Your sensitivity is understandable. Ultimately though, the world will not make adjustments. The anger you are directing at the individual who made the statement is misdirected in my opinion. It is in no way helpful for you to inconvenience yourself by quitting class or seeking a class at some distance.

Carry on, and in the process you may find healing.

Just my opinion

[OurSafeHome.net]

Originally Posted by Knowledge Bot

The teacher told this guy that "you should hold your gun like you're holding your p____."

I have experience with both, and this "instructor" is all wrong (or has an exceptionally high pain threshold!)

You should grip a firearm with at least the amount of pressure you would grip a tennis racquet, baseball bat or golf club.

The stronger/firmer/tighter the grip, the better!

The same rule does not apply for the other object he was talking about gripping.

This "instructor" is unprofessional on at least two levels: 1) He should not be using this type of language in a class and 2) What he is teaching is flat out wrong!

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[Garland]

the man seems insensitive and unprofessional.