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Most of you have more experience in this than I do so here goes....
I've been attracted to (maybe obsessed with is the proper term here) this girl ever since I met her (over four and a half years now). She doens't know for certain - maybe she suspects - we have caught each other stealing glances at each other several times. We aren't very close, but we've had a cordial friendship since we met. But sometimes she gets all moody. She snapped at me once last year when I asked her how she was, so I avoided her, and then about two hours later after class she was smiling at me again. What gives?
About a year ago, she seemed to be a very close friend. Two weeks ago she seemed like a good friend. And before that she was like a stranger who didn't care whether or not I existed (she probably also felt the same about me, because I was giving her a lot of space after she ignored me when I greeted her twice). And further before that in February she flirted with me. Recently, she's been a little distant again. So could she be telling me to stay away, or is she playing hard-to-get? A part of me wants to up the relationship from a platonic one to a romantic one, but another part of me doesn't want to risk losing her as a friend.
All my family and close friends tell me to let her know how I feel, or at least ask her if she's got a "special someone". Two of them also told me to make the opportunity and not wait for it because I've already waited too long, she might get someone else if she doesn't have one already. According to my brother, "You're waiting - maybe she's waiting too - there's no force - nothing's happening".
However, there's a chance that if she has no interest, she just might stop talking to me for good. Then again, maybe she's not saying anything because she may think I have no interest. To the ladies on these forums, you have more insight on these things. Should I have a little more patience and hold out for her a little longer and wait for her to say something, or should I take the initiative and let her know how feel?
I've been attracted to (maybe obsessed with is the proper term here) this girl ever since I met her (over four and a half years now). She doens't know for certain - maybe she suspects - we have caught each other stealing glances at each other several times. We aren't very close, but we've had a cordial friendship since we met. But sometimes she gets all moody. She snapped at me once last year when I asked her how she was, so I avoided her, and then about two hours later after class she was smiling at me again. What gives?
About a year ago, she seemed to be a very close friend. Two weeks ago she seemed like a good friend. And before that she was like a stranger who didn't care whether or not I existed (she probably also felt the same about me, because I was giving her a lot of space after she ignored me when I greeted her twice). And further before that in February she flirted with me. Recently, she's been a little distant again. So could she be telling me to stay away, or is she playing hard-to-get? A part of me wants to up the relationship from a platonic one to a romantic one, but another part of me doesn't want to risk losing her as a friend.
All my family and close friends tell me to let her know how I feel, or at least ask her if she's got a "special someone". Two of them also told me to make the opportunity and not wait for it because I've already waited too long, she might get someone else if she doesn't have one already. According to my brother, "You're waiting - maybe she's waiting too - there's no force - nothing's happening".
However, there's a chance that if she has no interest, she just might stop talking to me for good. Then again, maybe she's not saying anything because she may think I have no interest. To the ladies on these forums, you have more insight on these things. Should I have a little more patience and hold out for her a little longer and wait for her to say something, or should I take the initiative and let her know how feel?
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