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Hi. I’m new here and am struggling to cope…I seem to have reached a point where I don’t know what to do to support my husband and yet care for myself. My moods fluctuate between compassion for his suffering and anger at him for all the years wasted and the crap (can I say that??) I’ve had to deal with.
He’s in a real bad way at the moment this acute crisis phase has been going on since October last year and I’m forever nearing the end of my tether. Friends say it’s time to get out but the reality of that…well one minute I’m planning my escape and the next I’m hanging on in there! He’s suffered with his mental health for over 25 years and we’ve gone through some horrible times. Between those though there have been some calm almost happy times. More than anything I miss the man I married but hey ho he’s been gone for some while now…
He stays in bed a lot because he’s to scared to get up. I have to remind and/or cajole him to wash and eat. He sobs uncontrollably much of the time, says he would be better off dead but is too scared to take his own life (says he’s frightened he wouldn’t succeed)
Sometimes I think I’m enabling him to stay stuck and should detach more, other times I think I should be doing more for him
His GP has recently changed his medication and he’s been referred back to talk works, after he convinced everyone (except me) that he was well again!! That’s another part I find so difficult…some times he becomes quite hyper, convinced he’s cracked it and is well again. We go through a few days or sometimes weeks of him in an almost euphoric stage before he crashes again. He’s not been diagnosed as bi-polar but I do wonder
So sorry for the long post, I couldn’t think of anything to write…and then there was no stopping me! Thanks for reading
He’s in a real bad way at the moment this acute crisis phase has been going on since October last year and I’m forever nearing the end of my tether. Friends say it’s time to get out but the reality of that…well one minute I’m planning my escape and the next I’m hanging on in there! He’s suffered with his mental health for over 25 years and we’ve gone through some horrible times. Between those though there have been some calm almost happy times. More than anything I miss the man I married but hey ho he’s been gone for some while now…
He stays in bed a lot because he’s to scared to get up. I have to remind and/or cajole him to wash and eat. He sobs uncontrollably much of the time, says he would be better off dead but is too scared to take his own life (says he’s frightened he wouldn’t succeed)
Sometimes I think I’m enabling him to stay stuck and should detach more, other times I think I should be doing more for him
His GP has recently changed his medication and he’s been referred back to talk works, after he convinced everyone (except me) that he was well again!! That’s another part I find so difficult…some times he becomes quite hyper, convinced he’s cracked it and is well again. We go through a few days or sometimes weeks of him in an almost euphoric stage before he crashes again. He’s not been diagnosed as bi-polar but I do wonder
So sorry for the long post, I couldn’t think of anything to write…and then there was no stopping me! Thanks for reading
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