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My MIL is a financial advisor and always managed my husband's money when he was growing up. When we got married, we didn't really have a clear discussion about finances or boundaries, it just kind of continued the same way it always was with her involved.
She still tends to take a very active role in anything related to money. We have a joint account and for the most part everything is shared, so in a way it felt “easy” to just let things be, but lately it’s been bothering me more.
I’m starting to feel uncomfortable with how much influence she still has over our financial decisions. It doesn’t feel like it’s really “our” space as a couple sometimes, and I’m not sure how to bring it up without it turning into a bigger issue or making it sound like I’m attacking her.
My husband doesn’t really see it as a problem since this is what he’s always known, so I feel a bit stuck between wanting more independence and not wanting to create tension in the family.
Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do you set boundaries in a situation where a parent has always been involved in your finances?
She still tends to take a very active role in anything related to money. We have a joint account and for the most part everything is shared, so in a way it felt “easy” to just let things be, but lately it’s been bothering me more.
I’m starting to feel uncomfortable with how much influence she still has over our financial decisions. It doesn’t feel like it’s really “our” space as a couple sometimes, and I’m not sure how to bring it up without it turning into a bigger issue or making it sound like I’m attacking her.
My husband doesn’t really see it as a problem since this is what he’s always known, so I feel a bit stuck between wanting more independence and not wanting to create tension in the family.
Has anyone dealt with something similar? How do you set boundaries in a situation where a parent has always been involved in your finances?