Dating in Muay Thai?!?!

[THT]

BTW Church is the best place to meet a girl and the bar is the worst imo.

Unless of course your just looking for some ass. Then stick to the bar. Or make sure they are catholic

[swisscom]

I think it would be awesome to date a woman that trains where I do. Of course, I dont know how my wife would feel about it.

You're a comedian.

[cfr]

I think it would be awesome to date a woman that trains where I do. Of course, I dont know how my wife would feel about it.

[LoneHusky]

Training With Your Significant Other
by Sarah Kennedy

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Training with your mate can be richly rewarding, but it can also be pretty frustrating.
Early on in my martial arts training, I discovered that I was far more likely to become a
martial arts “princess” when I was training with my husband Trevor (and vice versa), than
when I trained with people I didn’t know as well. For years, I avoided Trevor when it was
time to pick partners. One too many bickering sessions had made class unpleasant and
unproductive for us, and I was determined not to let it happen again. However, as I gained
more experience, I began to see my home time with Trevor as a valuable training resource.
I’ve watched many other couples, as well as close friends, have this same problem at our
gym. This has been especially true with people who don’t like to train with anyone but
each other. It has always surprised me that anyone would choose this scenario,
considering my own experience. I would so much rather work with someone who is new than
spend my training time arguing or being upset!
When you know someone well, you know what really gets to them -- and while this may be a
useful source of inspiration (especially in muay thai), most of the time it just gets in
the way. It is far too easy to take things personally with your mate or close friend.
I don’t know how many times Trevor has said to me (when I’ve accidentally whacked him),
“Ow...can’t you be more careful? Quit trying to hurt me.” This is pretty funny,
considering the amount of punishment he’s willing to take from other people without saying
anything about it!
These experiences have taught me two things. First, I don’t spar with Trevor (except for
occasional knife sparring), nor do I train muay thai with him. For those of you that know
Trevor, you’ll understand why I don’t like kicking thai pads with him (he’s 6’ 7“).
Mostly, however, I’ve found that we are far too competitive and sensitive with each other
to train effectively in these areas. Second, I try to train with other people as much as
possible, and save my time with Trevor for homework. The ability to train with a variety
of people is incredibly valuable, and it is one of the things I like the most about MKG.
All that aside, I have to say it is a blessing to live and be in love with a fellow
martial artist. Nobody’s jealous when I spend Valentine’s Day weekend at an Inosanto
seminar. There’s always someone to appreciate my accomplishments and failures and
discoveries. We are a source of support and inspiration for each other, and neither of us
can slack off for very long. Best of all, we are both happy and healthy as long as we
keep training, and this has made for a rich and enduring relationship.
To all the other couples training together out there, I say: learn to train together
regularly, but don’t become dependent on each other. Figure out what areas of training
are difficult for you as partners, and find other people to train with in these areas. Go
to class by yourself. Have your own interests, and develop your own strengths and
weaknesses at your own pace. Use your partner’s skills to help improve your own, but
don’t worry about being better (or worse) than them. Remember, although you are in this
together, you are each on your own path. That’s good relationship advice as well!

[LoneHusky]

BTW Church is the best place to meet a girl and the bar is the worst imo.

[LoneHusky]

Date them. When you're old you don't wanna look back and go I coulda woulda shoulda.

[Elfunko]

First and foremost, at my gym I personally think the MT girls are very attractive. Read: hot. It's because of this similar interest (and the intensity of training proves they are for real) I suppose. IMO, Mike B did exactly what I would like to do (though my equation is slightly different because of my love of surfing also). So in all flattery, you sound like you have an awesome wife.

P.S. A girl that can kick my ass is a major turn on. A girl that I can spar with and she would push me, make me improve, man I think I'd have died and gone to heaven. So in conclusion (from what I've seen) MT girls are hot! Maybe it's because I'm in San Diego though (hot hot hot, especially at my school which is famous for hot girls).

It's wierd too, cause I was wondering about this the other day as this lovely MT girl was helping me with some stuff.

[RYO9]

well i've always followed the rule don't date someone you train with. But if she's really good looking, i mean good enough to make your dad jealous, and she can kick someone's ass, go for it. just don't screw up or you'll be the smeone.

Mullins

[JKD Student]

But I'm such a nice guy

I've seen both good and bad come out of dating someone you train with or attends your school/gym. I know people who ended up getting married and have a great relationship. I've seen the flip side of that coin too, where it didn't work out and somebody had quit training cause they couldn't stand seeing each other.

I'm sure she wouldn't mind seeing me at the gym even after we broke up. If she did, she could always take it out on me during drills... All in good fun of course... I can hear it now "Oh, sorry about that knee... It was supposed to be parry, cross, not parry, knee wasn't it?"

On a serious note though, I don't see the possibilities of a relationship turning out great or poorly much differently just because the couple met in a gym or kickboxing class instead of on a college campus or at a favorite restaraunt or any other place people spend time regularly. It would be unfortunate if it hurt the instructor's business or the student's ability to train, but it would be great for a couple to find each other if it was not just some immature fling. Common interests are attractive after all. Hopefully we're all adult enough to use good judgement...

Now I'm off to start the Kickboxing girls who might be interested in dating me thread...

[Infinite1]

Well as most of you have posted it has it's good and bad sides to it. From my own experience one of my ex-gf got annoyed with the fact that i practiced everyday...So i think if you share a common interest it's good...now i'm not saying i'd date a ugly, tatooed, man-beast but if she looked good like that blond female fighter at master toddy's school...woo hooo....i tell ya if she wanted to date me i'd be all for it!!! i would care less if she could kick my butt....hahahah....

[Pukulan]

I've seen both good and bad come out of dating someone you train with or attends your school/gym. I know people who ended up getting married and have a great relationship. I've seen the flip side of that coin too, where it didn't work out and somebody had quit training cause they couldn't stand seeing each other.

[JKD Student]

Dating girls at the gym

There is a certain allure, a certain je n'sais quoi about a good looking chic who can throw a good punch too. I haven't dated any, but I think I'd like to. And I'd rather not have to steal them from someone else's gym to avoid my instructor's wrath

[sanjiyan99]

I met my wife in school -- great place to hook up with someone. She was a pretty girl who I just walked up to and asked where Cloud Hall was at so I could go to my next class. But, I skipped class that day because I talked to her the whole time! The rest is history -- after seven years of being friends, and a year of dating, we finally tied the knot. That's different from a Muay Thai class where you can only find someone just as buffed, and twice as ugly.

[HtTKar]

Dating in the gym is a bad thing, because you are there to work not to hook up and loose focus.

I can see what you mean, kinda. Its a bad thing for guys or ladies to be looking for someone at the gym to hook up with, but sometimes it just happens. As long as everyones mature about the situation I dont see any problems. Yes! When you are at the gym, you are there to work, not hit on people, talk, wrestle, or any other immature acts. But its like anything. Think of going to church. You're there for church, not to hook up with your lady. You have to know where the line is drawn.

[Tom Yum]

Dating in the gym is a bad thing, because you are there to work not to hook up and loose focus. Yes there is comraderie, but it comes second to training (the reason why you signed up, right?).

The only exception that seems right is like Octavious mentioned; you are both thaibox-aholics and really share a common love for the sport. That seems to breed healthier relationships for yourself and your gym rather than those who just hook up because some hot chick joined the gym, then end in drama.

I don't think that women who are in thaiboxing are man beasts. I have seen some really, really beautiful women who enjoy muaythai and will even sparr with guys. I've met some women in muay thai, both hot and not, but what I like most about them is that they are really level headed and interesting people just to talk to and hang out with.

These kinds of women, let alone people, are valuable commodities.