"I don't hit girls"

[cakegirl]

Where do you train???!
Grappling's a little different ... you never know when you might do something, accidentily touch or throughout going through the motions of a drill, that would offend or come across the wrong way. i.e. go in for a shoot and have them think your a grab ass or economizing on the drill to grope, or if you accidentily brush a breast...

I come up against this attitude with a fair degree of regularity, given that I'm the only woman at my BJJ club. When the new guys come, they always seem to have the above attitude, which just makes it frustrating for me because I'm trying to grapple someone who is 1) not grappling properly, and 2) not thinking about the grappling (He's thinking "Go for the choke - no - wait - don't - there's a breast near there! Argh! Breast!")

As I say to these guys (and as the guys that I train with on a regular basis already know) - if I was worried about a guy touching me during training, I wouldn't be doing BJJ. I'd be doing knitting, or some other non-contact hobby. But I'm not. I'm grappling, and in grappling, people get very close, and that's the whole point of the sport. So I don't think anyone's doing any favours by having a big Male/Female divide as far as their behaviour goes.

Cakegirl

[Tom Yum]

Cakegirl, you've got to be one of the coolest women on this board, too bad you train so far and away, otherwise I'd ask you to hangout for a beer and a barbecue amongst friends .

[Jeremy Lobdell]

I'm grappling, and in grappling, people get very close, and that's the whole point of the sport. So I don't think anyone's doing any favours by having a big Male/Female divide as far as their behaviour goes.Cakegirl

Rock on, Cakegirl. You rule!

[cakegirl]

Woohoo! Contributions to the "get Cakegirl back to the USA fund" can be made by PayPal at... LOL!

[cakegirl]

[sigh]
Nobody wants to contribute... All talk, no action...

What do you guys say I come over in May to watch ADCC???

[ChunGi]

Generally if u are beating them they will step up. A guy still doesnt want to loose to a girl, its a ego thing, so if ur accually kicking thier ass they will probably come back with more effort.

I still dont beat up girls anywhere, even in the dojo..............

[Tom Yum]

Woohoo! Contributions to the "get Cakegirl back to the USA fund" can be made by PayPal at... LOL!

Can I pay with humor?
grattitude?
How bout excess libido??

[cakegirl]

Well, given that the funds would be going straight to the plane ticket, how about you give the CEO of United Airlines all your humour, gratitude and excess libido, then drop me a line and let me know how all that went for you.

[Tom Yum]

Is the CEO was a female cake girl look alike?

[cakegirl]

Hm, could be, but more likely the CEO is a fat old bald guy.

[koto_ryu]

I personally never back down from a chance to wrestle with a woman....preferably in Jell-O

[cakegirl]

Haha then you'd love the parties I throw at my place LOL

[koto_ryu]

Haha then you'd love the parties I throw at my place LOL

Hit me up with an invite next time you're in town! LOL

[polegirl]

Hey we have still not blown up the pool. So technically we have not done the Jelly wrestling. I thought we had decided on mud anyway!!!!!!!

[koto_ryu]

Hey we have still not blown up the pool. So technically we have not done the Jelly wrestling. I thought we had decided on mud anyway!!!!!!!

"We could only get tubes of K-Y, they don't sell in bulk"

God I love that movie