Oh MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD

[Uke]

I, as well as everyone on this site who is olde enough has probably gone through the motions because of a woman. It hurts, and don't think that just because you've put you're mind at ease for now that this is it. The reality is, you'll meet someone new, and go through the same sh!t over her. Anyone who tells you different is lying. Time has to go by, as time heals all wounds.

My advice? Write everything you feel and have gone through down. In a year, read what you wrote and you'll be like "Wow, I was in bad shape". And you may even get a laugh out of it. But I promise you'll be stronger for having reflected. Time heals and teaches, but in your state of mind you want time to just zoom by so you can be done with this. I get it, cause I've been there.

Remember: As long as you learn something valuable from a situation you don't lose. You simply have victories of lesser degrees. And in this case I hope you learn that letting go is never easy, but it frees up your hands to grasp at new and better things, bro.

Keep your chin up(unless you're sparring),bro

[osopardo]

...she wants to stay in contact...

BAD idea.
Closure is supposed to be just that. Closure. Closing the books. Closing the door. Closing that chapter in your lives. The way you really feel in your heart, why do you want to haunt and possibly sabotage her marriage. Who will she go running to when she has her first really bad fight with her husband (as all married couples eventually do), you? What's gonna happen when you hug her if she starts crying? Be honest with yourself.

And why would you want to carry this emotional baggage into your next relationship and sabotage that?

Do the right thing, the tough thing. Close it and move on.

[Garland]

Who will she go running to when she has her first really bad fight with her husband (as all married couples eventually do), you?

She wasn't the type to run TO people. She's much more self reliant and independent than the typical person...my guess is if they had a fight and she wanted to leave...she'd disappear for a week or two and suddenly pop back into the picture. IF she were running toward something, it would likely be heroin, not a person....so my hope is that this guy takes damn good care of her, because she's cleaned up now.

My hopes for friendship extend to her husband now, I want to be cool enough in his eyes to be able to, every now and then, maybe go out and do something like get some drinks or see a play or some shit with both of them.

Maybe this'll be cool eventually...
Me and the bride spun a cigarette at the wedding, and I picked up one the groom dropped, we all stood outside the church, and all seemed pretty chill.

[Richard Kerr]

dude, man, being hung up on a chick that doesn't feel the same way is never good.. been there and done that...

As Men we tend to put our objects of affection on a pedestal, you gotta move on, you don't have to forget about her if you don't want to.. but you do have to move on with your life..

I made a vow to myself that I will never let another woman ever have such power over me... that I would be completely in shambles if she ever walked away...

Well said.

[Richard Kerr]

I, as well as everyone on this site who is olde enough has probably gone through the motions because of a woman. It hurts, and don't think that just because you've put you're mind at ease for now that this is it. The reality is, you'll meet someone new, and go through the same sh!t over her. Anyone who tells you different is lying. Time has to go by, as time heals all wounds.

My advice? Write everything you feel and have gone through down. In a year, read what you wrote and you'll be like "Wow, I was in bad shape". And you may even get a laugh out of it. But I promise you'll be stronger for having reflected. Time heals and teaches, but in your state of mind you want time to just zoom by so you can be done with this. I get it, cause I've been there.

Remember: As long as you learn something valuable from a situation you don't lose. You simply have victories of lesser degrees. And in this case I hope you learn that letting go is never easy, but it frees up your hands to grasp at new and better things, bro.

Keep your chin up(unless you're sparring),bro

Well said.

[Garland]

Well said.

...
okay...I appreciate you not talking shit here. You had an opportunity to do it, and you didn't go there. That's noble.