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[matbla]

because people put other people down and unfair way

[DickHardman]

How many times do we need to look at pictures of a jacket I saw in Target back in 1986?

lol....its never gonna end....

did you get my pm with those links mr arieson??

[matbla]

i sorry it is not a wal-mart jacket it is what the players use on the baseball field
sorry for posting here you make fun of me for no reason at all.. did i make fun of you somethimg when you push me to far i did not want to hurt any ones feeling here you all great and you sometime make fun of my becasue i am learning problem i have,, and handicaps should not be make fun of there trying to make friend and i am matbla form the begining i am not anyone elase but matbla from near lake geroge , new york from matt blake (matbla)
sorry for post here i did not want a war over my good topics if you have just answered people topic in a good way maybe they would come up with a new and good topic and if you alway reply with what ever or it is sh-- and stuff like that then the person might get made and make fun of you ,,did you ever think of that from matt blake matbla

[matbla]

i am on this board and karate korner and i do not post on any other board but those any more i do not like the use of drug are bad and i have for about the past 3 month not been to those site i deleted them from my favorite list and i only keep these in my favirite list this board here and karate korner only and stop tell people i been to those site i hate them i like this site if there were no wars over me and just get along with what ever the topic so if you do not like my topic then do not read them and please shut up about me and my learnig problem and hurting people with learning problema and disabiltes and handicaps ,,let me tell you what if you had one of these and they alway make fun of you ???!!!!from matt blake

[matbla]

not funny it you that need to getalone we tryed putting up wioth youand now you not funny and shit for make fun of learn problems and disabiltys and handicaps can we stop your war you talking about it is people like you that make the board bad you do not like a topic do not read it and do not reply if you donot like the topic like this i know you will reply again to this i know you will even if you do not like the topic so you seem to ruin people topic

[matbla]

thank you i lay back on my topic o.k from matt blake

[matbla]

i do not know eathier i thought it was a good topic

[matbla]

i sorry i did not use your name ever so what's up

[Guest]

Garland,

Whats up fella? Why so down on life? Is this your usual outlook or are things getting you down? Genuinely interested, but its cool if you don't want to share.

Mike

[Tom Yum]

Garland's ok.

Growing pains. He'll be fine

[Tom Yum]

Deep.

When I was 6 years old, we were in the tail-end of the Cold War with the USSR. I remember our principal coming into our class to talk to us about the possbility of nuclear war and having him show us how to get under our desks in case of some kind of a bomb attack. Later that year, the movie "The Day After" came out - portraying a nuclear strike in a big city and the aftermath. I think that was the first time, at age 6, that I realized my own mortality and how quick I could be changed into dust.

The second time, was when I was in highschool when angry teens took out their frustrations on students with drive-by shootings. Two shootings took place one year at my school - both targets were random, well-liked students. I got jumped and protected a friend at the same time.

I'm facing the possbility of it again in the line of work I'm going to be doing. I don't think too much about my place in the world or how quickly it could end - maybe I'm an optimist?

All I know is that I've always gotten my point across when it mattered. I've experienced true love and have been loved back. I've dealt with some incredibly difficult, immature, complicated people as well as being blessed with kind, generous, self-sacrificing and energetic ones. I've fought hard battles, lost a few to come back and win some important ones. I've taken some pretty big risks and have always faced the armchair QB's - so I've learned to seek mentors whom are doing what I'm going to do. Life is just gettin' started!

I'm gonna do what I can to stay alive. Life is just too interesting and fun.

I love life and all its craziness!

[Guest]

Garland,

First of all, that is an awesome post, and the reason why I am on this forum.

I don't claim to know anything about you, but your thoughts remind me alot of myself 10 years ago. I liked to read a lot of Karl Gustav Jung and question every thought and emotion that entered my mind, usually jading it with a fatalistic perception. I spent most of my 20's Bi-Polar, and used to think that fun was getting in the ring and intentionally losing for 3 rounds so see how much I could fck myself up. In ten years I lost five girlfriends, most of my family, and a child. It makes a dent I have to say. Glass half full? Yeah, what glass....

If I can offer any hope, its that in the last 3 years or so the internal dialogue has simply run out, you just don't have anything left to question. When that happens things move from the black or white that your mind applies to it, and shifts to the colour that stands before you. That shift hasn't come from any religion, any partner, any life-changing altercations - its just come from me.

This is probably WAY beyond the interest of everyone on this forum, but another side effect of clarity is you stop giving a fck what people think of you. So in this brief conversation I hope I have made some sense, and I really enjoyed your post.

And by the way friend, the shift from Australian to South American/Spanish wines is a big part of it, they are the way forward

Take it easy.

[matbla]

no one is making fun of you garland i never made fun of you from matt blake

[Hardball]

That is what vacations are for, but the reality of it is; vacations are expensive. People use to tell me; "You don't have a life" It's because I spent 10 years working two jobs. Then once I got caught up on my basic needs (Maslows Hierarchy) I started to enjoy life by taking vacations and enjoying my weekends. Having a girlfriend/wife is also a big step in the right direction. Thus, having the blues ( I need a vacation blues) is not the end of the world but can serve as a motivator to better your position on Maslows Hierarchy.

Nothing is better for stress than a week at a dream location getting laid with your sweetheart.

Hang in there, it gets better.