scared in real life situations,help!

[Oreomeister365]

I find you need have have a certain sense of pride in yourself and your abilities sort of like "you cannot defeat me you cowardly weakling!" and ya gotta mean every words of it. But then again you also gotta know when to think "damn he's gotta gun!"

also, I learned that adrenaline is basically "used to protect you", it is a temporary "power up" your body uses to increase your overall abilities for a while, so every time I get that nervous feeling of adrenaline coursing through me, I think of it as "okay, I feel powerful"

and then my hair goes yellow and I go super saiyan HYAAAA!!!!


yeah..anyways...

[OldGit]

Fear

I know what you mean about fight or flight and being semi-paralysed by that adrenaline rush. I've experienced that many times. But the particular experience I was referring to was different. I felt no fear because I didn't fear this kid, I didn't think he could hurt me. I just found I couldn't hurt him.

[jubaji]

Everyone feels fear, its just a matter of focusing that fear.

Is that what you do when caught in a bold-faced lie? Are you feeling that way right now?

[Ninpo Ikan]

Everyone feels fear, its just a matter of focusing that fear. Whenever you get scared, your body moves into a fight-or-flight response, where your body is telling you to either run to safety or fight with all you've got. Your abs tighten up, your breathing quickens, sometimes you'll get goosebumps (as back when we were just apes, we had more hair and that would cause us to look larger and more intimidating), and you get a surge of adrenaline in your body. The main thing to do is try your best to relax and feel confident, then before you know it your fear is in the background and you have nothing to worry about. Meditation will help some of this, so will full-contact sparring as you'll get used to taking some solid hits.

[OldGit]

Fear

I remember the same thing happening to me at school. I didn't think my punches would hurt this kid who was picking a fight with me, and so sure enough they didn't! They were like little gentle pushes of the fist, with no snap or force.

I strongly believe that stuff like this is controlled by your mind and whether you think it will work. It's like tackling someone at football or rugby. If you think you'll get hurt then you probably will, but if you think your going to flatten the other guy then BANG - down he goes. Of course fighting isn't as simple as that because the other guy has got his own agenda, but I think that believing that what you are doing will work is the first essential.

Hope that waffle makes sense!

[gabbah]

i have a similar fear that i feel i need to get off my chest. whenever i think about or are in a real fight situation i get this fear that my punches will hvae no effect. I know ic an hit the bag hard but i feel that when a real situation no matter how hard i swing it won't do any damage.

That's funny, I've sometimes had a dream that I have to fight, and when I punch I get no power, they barely feel my punches, and also I move very slow.

[dukemushroom]

i have a similar fear that i feel i need to get off my chest. whenever i think about or are in a real fight situation i get this fear that my punches will hvae no effect. I know ic an hit the bag hard but i feel that when a real situation no matter how hard i swing it won't do any damage.

[spudman300]

thanks alot,im off to look at the site now
,ben

[Tom Yum]

im gettin above good at martial arts now and as my instrutor says "im way above the standard" and he's 5th dan,so i believe him,its just when it comes tp real life fights i find it hard to concentrate and some times it feels like my limbs start to ache,i no that puts a real funny images of a lad wid wobly limbs in a fight but it true,one more thing even thou this happens i still manage to hit hard and often

Mike Tyson's legendary trainer Cus D'Amato said that every fighter faces fear before a fight, so you accept the fact that you are afraid and do what you came to do.

[seany85]

Ive just finished reading the book Fear by Geoff Thompson, I strongly suggest you read it.

[Thai Bri]

Go here Ben www.geoffthompson.com

This guy is the resident martial arts expert for overcoming and using your fears. Good luck.

[spudman300]

i dunno if any1 has put this threat up but anyway help would be appricated,
im gettin above good at martial arts now and as my instrutor says "im way above the standard" and he's 5th dan,so i believe him,its just when it comes tp real life fights i find it hard to concentrate and some times it feels like my limbs start to ache,i no that puts a real funny images of a lad wid wobly limbs in a fight but it true,one more thing even thou this happens i still manage to hit hard and often...im i sum kind of freak wid slow mo powers......yea rite

please reply ,ben