scared in real life situations,help!

[kuk sool won]

omg i hate those dreams! lol

Yeh i used to have those dreams loads

[kuk sool won]

Theres a technique i used to use in that situation, you almost always know when a fight will occur so for about 10 seconds before panic like mad, let all your fears get in and take control for a brief moment, then, after that 10 seconds think to yourself thats it, iv'e worried about it and now its time to take action, for me it works, im controlled, confident and the fears basically gone, don't know if it would work for anyone else but it did me...

[95 Mystic TA]

7yearsjudoka, although I don't know you personally, your attitute and wisdom (and ability to express your thoughts) seem to be well beyond that of a thirteen year old. Had you not posted your age I would have mistaken you for some one of much older age. Props to you.

[trainer001]

That's funny, I've sometimes had a dream that I have to fight, and when I punch I get no power, they barely feel my punches, and also I move very slow.

omg i hate those dreams! lol

[djcaldwell]

You must be 13!!

Hear this- "Black and White do not mix."(unsure).

--> don't pick fight's!

You either fight, or practise self defense. Which mean's...[your interpretation].

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Rather. I need to control my anger. oh well i have about 68 years to work on it.

You must be 13!!

Hear this- "Black and White do not mix."(unsure).

--> don't pick fight's!

You either fight, or practise self defense. Which mean's...[your interpretation].

[7yearsjudoka]

Yes wise friend.

You must learn not to let anger dictate your words my friend. It is not wise to offend so many with one statement. I advise you choose your words carefully or clarify more in the future. however, I still agree your advice and conversation is intelligent.

Rather. I need to control my anger. oh well i have about 68 years to work on it.

[Timberwolf]

it's ok friend!

I agree I was being condescending but I did not intentionally aim my concern at all of you. My comments were more targeted to the people who seemed to want to fight simply or primarily to prove their strength or ability. That made me very angry.

You must learn not to let anger dictate your words my friend. It is not wise to offend so many with one statement. I advise you choose your words carefully or clarify more in the future. however, I still agree your advice and conversation is intelligent.

[7yearsjudoka]

Originally posted by 7yearsjudoka


It is not that I do not respect your points of view. I have something to learn from everyone on here, and age is of no concern. My point is that you generalized stating that we all need to learn some self-control. Read your post, its pretty condesending and shows a lack of self-control.

I agree with your moms advice on violence. The key is to end the confrontation as quickly as possible. You need everything you have, because there is almost nothing more dangerous than being physically assaulted. The best way to win, is to never underestimate your opponent. "Whatever it takes", nothing more, and nothing less.

I agree I was being condescending but I did not intentionally aim my concern at all of you. My comments were more targeted to the people who seemed to want to fight simply or primarily to prove their strength or ability. That made me very angry.

[HtTKar]

Originally posted by 7yearsjudoka

Not Acceptable
You guys sound like your martial arts training has not taught you control. All this talk about kicking people's asses. It's uneccessary. What do you have to prove to us? If somebody aggravates me enough I will fight them but please show some restraint when the offence is minor. I'm 13 and I have learned this much. You all have great potential.

It is not that I do not respect your points of view. I have something to learn from everyone on here, and age is of no concern. My point is that you generalized stating that we all need to learn some self-control. Read your post, its pretty condesending and shows a lack of self-control.

I agree with your moms advice on violence. The key is to end the confrontation as quickly as possible. You need everything you have, because there is almost nothing more dangerous than being physically assaulted. The best way to win, is to never underestimate your opponent. "Whatever it takes", nothing more, and nothing less.

[7yearsjudoka]

Oh that's OK.

[Timberwolf]

itashimashite!

thank you very much my young friend.

[7yearsjudoka]

very well put. No argument here.

Thank you. I respect you a lot so i added to your reputation.

[7yearsjudoka]

Oh and in contrast to your Japanese quote, Bokuwa Hugo des, jiu san sai, Wellington ni sunde emas.

[Timberwolf]

nice!

I try to be wise and follow my own advice but many times I have not followed it. I cannot deny that I enjoy to fight. But I also cannot deny the fact that when I do fight I am merciful. I have had only 1 real fight and I have only ever once given somebody a black eye. Although I enjoy fights I also try quite hard to avoid them unless I feel I really do need to fight.

I think most people need to realise (I admit I stumble here sometimes) a fight is not about reclaiming or getting honour or respect. It's about defending yourself or somebody else from a dangerous situation. I think many people stumble on that and therefore have a warped idea of justifiable force depending on the situation. Or they do not apply the concept of justifiable force to all situations.

very well put. No argument here.