advice needed.....

[Bjjexpertise@be]

If you take that attitude now, you will be stuck with it for life. Do something.

Hmmmm is there anything in particular you want me to do, piggy? I've told teachers about what he's doing and they don't seem to be doing a very good job of making him desist. So I now ask you, what am I supposed to do?(Not sarcasm)

[jubaji]

Hmmmm is there anything in particular you want me to do, piggy? I've told teachers about what he's doing and they don't seem to be doing a very good job of making him desist. So I now ask you, what am I supposed to do?(Not sarcasm)

If parents and teachers aren't getting it done, you need to get on them about it. And you need to have a serious talk with this kid.

[Bjjexpertise@be]

Indeed I've tried. Except he just goes on saying "CHING CHONG CHING!!". God I want to beat his face in so bad, don't know what's been holding me back all these years.
God I must be really losing it I'm getting advice from a pig .

[jubaji]

shoganai

Indeed I've tried. Except he just goes on saying "CHING CHONG CHING!!". God I want to beat his face in so bad, don't know what's been holding me back all these years.
God I must be really losing it I'm getting advice from a pig .

Listen to the pig, the pig is your friend.


You need to do something about this NOW. You need to make your issue clear to your teacher,parents,principal.


And if all else fails, you may need to scrub the floor with this kid's face. One would certainly hope that that would not be necessary and would be entered into as the very last resort, but if your choice is between getting in "trouble" or developing a permanent apathy towards your own self-respect...

[Bjjexpertise@be]

I would gladly scrub the floor with his face but...I really don't find myself the kind of guy who would beat the crud out of someone. I mean I could enter a fight and walk away as long as noone is too badly hurt. But beating him to a pulp? As a teacher, what would you do to handle this situation?

[Tom Yum]

Indeed I've tried. Except he just goes on saying "CHING CHONG CHING!!". God I want to beat his face in so bad, don't know what's been holding me back all these years.
God I must be really losing it I'm getting advice from a pig .

You've got to keep your wits about you.

Next time he busts out the CHING, CHONG thing laugh and say "You just told me in Chinese that if you could suck yourself off, you'd never leave home "

He'll either laugh it off and lay off.....

or he'll escalate.

Da ball is in your court.

[jubaji]

I would gladly scrub the floor with his face but...I really don't find myself the kind of guy who would beat the crud out of someone. I mean I could enter a fight and walk away as long as noone is too badly hurt. But beating him to a pulp? As a teacher, what would you do to handle this situation?

I have bad news for you. You will be forced to get over your reluctance to beat the hell out of someone, someday.

As a teacher, I would pull this kid aside and warn him in no uncertain terms that his behavior will have less than positive results. Next, I would contact his parents personally and read them the riot act. If he continued, I would subject the kid to the most extreme public humiliation possible this side of law suit city.

[Bjjexpertise@be]

You've got to keep your wits about you.

Next time he busts out the CHING, CHONG thing laugh and say "You just told me in Chinese that if you could suck yourself off, you'd never leave home "

He'll either laugh it off and lay off.....

or he'll escalate.

Da ball is in your court

Sadly, Tom, I've tried that tactic multiple times. He just keeps doing what he's doing.

I would subject the kid to the most extreme public humiliation possible this side of law suit city.

So what exactly would that be? I'm interested.

If I do scrub the floor with his face I fear I will be expelled People have no tolerance for fighting even if it is in self defense.

[jubaji]

If I do scrub the floor with his face I fear I will be expelled People have no tolerance for fighting even if it is in self defense.

Well, sometime you are going to need to decide what's important to you.

[Tom Yum]

Sadly, Tom, I've tried that tactic multiple times. He just keeps doing what he's doing.

Let's think this out. There must be some kind of emotional payoff for what he is doing; maybe some people are laughing at him or it makes him laugh.

Find out what it is, watch him carefully the next time he gets into this fit and learn something new...

Ever try approaching him and saying. Hey man, whenever you do that ching, chong thing i don't know if you're just joking around cause I find it offensive. You've got to get it on the table before you take your next action.

Heck, get him to write it down what he says and sign his name on it if he's so gutsy and bring it to your teacher or prinicpals attention.

[jubaji]

So what exactly would that be? I'm interested.

Well, just for starters he would have to make that sound for ten minutes straight in front of your parents and his parents in a big empty room. He would write a 20 page paper on the history of Asian immigration to the US and recite it to the class every day for a month. Maybe we would take a field trip to the local Asian civic association where he would make that sound and explain what he thought was so funny about it.

Oh, there's lots more you could do...



But the point is, what are you gonna do?

[Bjjexpertise@be]

I'm not sure what I'm gunna do here. I dunno if you guys grew up in america and have faced these kind of problems or not but i'm gunna ask you anyway. Has stuff like this ever happened to you guys? If so what did you gusy do about it?

Jubaji I really dunno what to do seem to have tried everything...

[Chilly Dog]

I'm not sure what I'm gunna do here. I dunno if you guys grew up in america and have faced these kind of problems or not but i'm gunna ask you anyway. Has stuff like this ever happened to you guys? If so what did you gusy do about it?

Jubaji I really dunno what to do seem to have tried everything...

I just wrote a long response to your situation, and deleted it when I tried to remove a typo. @$%!in technology!!

At any rate, I have indeed faced this situation. I went to an elementary school where almost everyone was from a different racial background. I dealt with situations like yours daily: kids I argued with made racial slurs out of anger, friends "slipped up" and did the same, even teachers made ignorant remarks. I sometimes fought out of frustration, but mostly I just endured it. Generally, I spent those years miserable and insecure, even though I was "popular," because I never knew where the next "attack" would be coming from. Fortunately, I went to a more diverse high school. While I moved on, I don't have the fondest of memories of those early years!

Here's what I'd do in your situation:

1) I'd document everything that has happened thus far, including the various remarks made, any authority figures I'd approached for help, and their responses. Then, I'd take this document to the president or principal of the school. I'd let them know that I was fed up, that it was their responsibility to create an inclusive learning environment, and that they were failing. I'd tell them that this kid was no longer my problem, he was theirs; and I respectfully wanted something done about the situation. Then, I'd document their response, and wait for something to change.

2) If nothing changed, or if they showed no desire to do anything or take my complaint seriously, I'd wait until the next time it happened, and tell the kid to stop immediately.

3) If he didn't stop (which he probably wouldn't), I'd KICK HIS BEHIND right there. I wouldn't try to hurt him, but I would humiliate him. Then, I'd tell him, loud enough for everyone to hear, that if he did it again, the next time would be worse.

4) Then, if the school tried to take punitive action against me, I'd take my documentation to my parents, the school board, officials in my town, the local Asian-American association or Urban League, or anyone else I needed to take up my cause. We would be focused not only on reversing the School's punishment, but also why its administrators never took action when I made them aware of the situation.

You don't deserve this! In my youth, I was like you: I did whatever I could to avoid involving adults or fighting. However, I ironically found that when my frustration finally "boiled over" and I defended myself, the harassment stopped, at least with that particular kid. Furthermore, when school officials understood the situation, they never blamed me. This was in a conservative community in the early '80s. I can't believe your community is any less progressive today!

Jubaji's original point is right: all of us have to decide what we are willing to stand for. I believe the most important cause we all should be willing to stand for is our own dignity and self-respect! Good luck!

[eXcessiveForce]

rite so heres my problem..........recently i been gettin some stick from these triplets,im m8s wid one of them but the other 2 are out to get me,there are both 16 and taller than me,im one of those ppl who can handle fights bu i would rather plan a time and place,so i did,seein as they wouldnt lay off i told them to meet me at the park near my house to sort things out,so in to weeks i tink i gotta put wot i learnt in my martial arts class to use so they get the point,the biggest problem is ,they no alot of ppl and i got a feelin its goin to be me,my other martial arts m8 and loads of them,do u tink i should not turn up or wot,i reckon i could prob take them both ,but not them and there m8s......wot do i do ,ben

okay, let me get this straight, You have been having homosexual relations with triplets. You mated one of them, (does that mean you gave them stick?) And now the other two want you. Now there is some kind of domestic squabble. So you tried to lure them to a park to have your way with them. then I just am kind a lost... something about doubling up on them or some kind of fourway.

what does this have to do with MA?

[jubaji]

Jubaji I really dunno what to do seem to have tried everything...

You haven't tried everything if it's still going on.