I don't think it's a school problem at all, I think it's a larger societal problem and I've been trying to pin it down for a long time now. I think there is a disconnectedness in American culture such that people don't feel that they know each other in a neighborly sense. Americans seem to see each other more as strangers and also to view strangers as threats.
In schools it presents this way: If parents trust the teacher and principle, and the child gets suspended for fighting (for example) the parents are likely to assume the school made the right decision. They are going to expect the child to explain why he's in trouble with the school. This is the way school/parent relations once worked if my our parents are to be believed. On the other hand, if the parents start with distrust of the school and the kid gets suspended, then marching down and demanding an explanation from the principle is more the parental response, no? It an 'us versus them'.
I don't know how it was fifty years ago in America - maybe 'the good old days' weren't, but today there are a number of things undeniably wrong. Regular school shootings is just one. Another is the ubiquity of the lawyer and the civil suit. A third can be found in traffic - the light turns green and the guy behind me is laying on his horn before i can even find the clutch. People stopping cars to have fistfights (or worse). Folks don't even stop to offer each other help alongside the road, and if they do stop they are greeted with suspicion first and thanks last.
I don't know. It seems to me that Americans (I can't speak for anybody else) don't trust each other well enough to work together. Nobody seems to want to give the benefit of the doubt to anyone. Lawyers have replaced handshakes and the television has replaced the social club.
In schools it presents this way: If parents trust the teacher and principle, and the child gets suspended for fighting (for example) the parents are likely to assume the school made the right decision. They are going to expect the child to explain why he's in trouble with the school. This is the way school/parent relations once worked if my our parents are to be believed. On the other hand, if the parents start with distrust of the school and the kid gets suspended, then marching down and demanding an explanation from the principle is more the parental response, no? It an 'us versus them'.
I don't know how it was fifty years ago in America - maybe 'the good old days' weren't, but today there are a number of things undeniably wrong. Regular school shootings is just one. Another is the ubiquity of the lawyer and the civil suit. A third can be found in traffic - the light turns green and the guy behind me is laying on his horn before i can even find the clutch. People stopping cars to have fistfights (or worse). Folks don't even stop to offer each other help alongside the road, and if they do stop they are greeted with suspicion first and thanks last.
I don't know. It seems to me that Americans (I can't speak for anybody else) don't trust each other well enough to work together. Nobody seems to want to give the benefit of the doubt to anyone. Lawyers have replaced handshakes and the television has replaced the social club.
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