scared in real life situations,help!

[SamuraiGuy]

Err well think of it this way, if Mike Tyson gets scared before boxing matches, you shouldnt feel bad about getting scared before a fight.

I think the quote goes or is something like this

"Im scared everytime I step into the ring, but I just bite down on the mouthgaurd, plant my feet and think get ready to do this"

For me I would have more of a fear of losing, (moreso to MMA than a fight) losing and getting a loss, knowing that this guy beat you would be worse than any physical damage they could inflict. I remember I was going to "UFC" (basically a fight with a few rules, and we didnt hate each other we were friends) a kid, but he was smaller, and about half the strength, and I had far more/better training. I knew I could kill this kid, but I thought, what if he beats me... that would be the worst thing ever.

It never actually happened because I invited him to where I take Krav, to "try out sparring" (what we would have told the instructor) and he never came. Even when I told him I would drive him there and home, and I would even not punch him in the head but he could still punch me in the head. (I was this confident against this guy) He wouldnt show up.

What I take from this is, your scared, but hes more scared, use that.

[Tameo]

I try to just relax and be ready, hands near my chest head slightly facing down, observing oponent's the elbows and knees in peripheral vision.

[Bjjexpertise@be]

I've had the shaky legs before but I usually have a different problem. When in Wrestling matches I always have this fear of losing and that I gotta win. If I'm in a fight, though, I usually have no fear at all and I love every second of it, call it a thrill if you want. God I'm crazy. Ack.

[Drache]

i dunno if any1 has put this threat up but anyway help would be appricated,
im gettin above good at martial arts now and as my instrutor says "im way above the standard" and he's 5th dan,so i believe him,its just when it comes tp real life fights i find it hard to concentrate and some times it feels like my limbs start to ache,i no that puts a real funny images of a lad wid wobly limbs in a fight but it true,one more thing even thou this happens i still manage to hit hard and often...im i sum kind of freak wid slow mo powers......yea rite

please reply ,ben

You're from England but you type like a 12 year old American. Please redo with a spellchecker. And an adult's supervision.

[Oreomeister365]

I fight because I am overcome with excitment when I do it.

SO natrually, I look forwards to doing them, but don't let that cloud my judgement of what is right.

[Tom Yum]

*grin* EXACTLY. That was my whole point to begin with: that people aren't born trained, and unless they're mentally unstable, people are not going to use all of their strength or ability in a fight!

How about those who are trained, are mentally stable and still able to use all their strength and ability in a fight, because they can switch into fight mode really quick?

[Penance]

*grin* EXACTLY. That was my whole point to begin with: that people aren't born trained, and unless they're mentally unstable, people are not going to use all of their strength or ability in a fight! Stop joking around with me, you're making me feel self conscious

[Tom Yum]

I I really do not think that *untrained* people, in a fight, are able to use their full potential.

Exactly. Because they are untrained.

[Hikage]

To those lacking power in punches...

To those of you who are fearing or who do lack power in punches when in real situations,

One of the major things people forget to do is to move. Most arts preach stepping through a punch or at least a twisting in the hips. This is one of the first movements to leave when in a real situation, especially for the young guys. We instead rely on muscle, which isn't good enough. Normally that snap and impact you feel comes from having your weight behind your punch. You are going to notice a sizeable difference between the impact with your arm strenght and with your body weight, which is what you are seeing in real situations. As an aside, many are guilty of this in sparring sessions as well. Too many play "tag" instead of fight.

-Hikage

[Penance]

I said *naturally*. People don't pop out of their mom knowing how to box, right? =) I'm sure Tyson had no problem going all out from the time he turned 5, but would you consider him to be a well adjusted individual? I really do not think that *untrained* people, in a fight, are able to use their full potential.

[Tom Yum]

Mentally stable homo sapiens just do not attack at full power naturally.

I guess you don't box...

[Penance]

I know exactly what all of you are talking about!
Anytime I'm in ANY kind of stressful or violent situation I get all rubbery. Even hours after the fact I'm shakey and upset.

I've had the same kind of dreams where I'm in a fight and I cannot move at all. Everything is in slow motion and none of my punches can do ANYTHING. Then again I've had dreams where I'm beatin' the crap out of people, so there ya go

I agree that it's all in your head. Once when I was drunk my (also drunk) room mate (who is known for putting holes in walls) banged on our bedroom wall, so to "one-up" him (I guess) I put my fist, pinky-ring-finger first through the wall. I could never make myself do that sober. But if that had been in a real fight, I'm sure I would have gone home with a couple broken fingers (darn crappy technique!) and they would have probably gotten a broken nose or jaw! Trust me, EVERYONE has way more power inside them than they realize. Mentally stable homo sapiens just do not attack at full power naturally, for whatever reason. You have to train out of it, because it really is all in your head.

[bbbb]

if I may,

please reply ,ben[/QUOTE]
...I would say that you know you will get beaten if you keep picking fight's.

I thought the martial art's were so you could prove yourself, and so become confident in yourself, in the dojo and not have to prove yourself in such dangerous situation's.

You know there is better/quicker people out there: that's why you are scared. Why don't you prove yourself able to defend yourself- not attack people like a thug. Your looking for the multiple attack situation aren't you...to brag to your mate's about.. when..you..KICK THEM ALL TO BITS.

THAT'S NOT VERY SELF DEFENCE LIKE!
Enlightened yet!
Sihing say's: "You practice the martial art's so that you can become confident enough within yourself to able to walk away from these sort's of situation's." "Do you understand?"

Your martial art has obviously failed you:

But, you will learn...Aikido simply say's-don't waste your energy.

[LoneWolf1]

I find that when you get that adrenaline rush your whole body tingles and you got into a hyper aware state. U think that you are moving slowly and attacking less powerfully but most likely you are doing just the opposite and are only perceving yourself to be weaker/ slower because of the adrenaline rush. And in order to use your MA skills you have to train constantly so they become instictive, which is hard at first because people are more incline to attack with "clobbering" style attacks and "arms over head" defences. These are basically the attack/ defensive mechanisms we have when we are born. In short, fight with not a blink of the eye between thoughts. Your mind must be everywhere yet not concentrated on anything.

[shuyun]

hey spud,

only means you're human.

before your first encounter most feel those kinds of jitters. you need to strain with more stress. practice with full strikes more often and have a friend ambush you every now and then.

of course the point of ambushing ypu is to attack when you are not expecting it.

it's not a substitute or guarantee against thereal thing but that's a little more preparation.