Womens self defense, or MMA grappling?

[Ben Grimm]

Which is what I've been teaching my wife. She knows a fight is not just physical, but also psychological. As I said I pull my power a little, but I still go at her pretty hard, and she understands that if she just gives up instead of fighting back... well she knows the consequences. At first we would just work on simple techniques, and applications. Building speed and technique as she improves. Every time I add more resistance so as to get her to be able to apply it under pressure. I'm not saying I'm a WSD teacher or what not. All I'm saying is that I know how to teach my wife.

[Uke]

How do you teach courage and tenacity?

That's exactly what Model Mugging seeks to do, Hardball. Its not so much courage as fear management and the ability to take initiative when you must. Tenacity is just a description of that initiative.

Believe it or not fear is what stops most people from acting in time to prevent most bad situations, let alone dealing with them. Sometimes people are so afraid that they KNOW that someone is following them but the fear has such a grip on them that they won't turn around ... hoping that if they just keep walking and minding their own business that the situation will just go away.

Fear management isn't necessarily courage. Courage IMO is what firemen do. Courage is when you yourself aren't necessarily in danger but you risk your life anyway. Fear management is learning to take the initiative when your own ass is on the line despite the overwhelming feelings of fear and fright.

This is accomplished through drills and exercises that show the necessity of not hesitating and how to use the power of fear to fight and not just flight.

The techniques are simple and gross motor and with practice you will instinctively fall to them even under duress. It's the pretending to be weak and scared that's hard to remember in those situations so that the attacker will let down his guard and give an opening.

[Hardball]

Make sure they document the meeting and take notes and ideally that there is more than one person in the meeting. If the principal sucks or you need help figuring out how to navigate the beauracracy, I'm sure jubaji and I can come up with some ideas.

Thanks, I'll pass this info along and get back to you if I need more info. Thanks.

[treelizard]

Make sure they document the meeting and take notes and ideally that there is more than one person in the meeting. If the principal sucks or you need help figuring out how to navigate the beauracracy, I'm sure jubaji and I can come up with some ideas.

[Hardball]

Thanks for your quick responses. Both are good ideas.

[Tant01]

Appropriate authority....

I just got a call last night. One of my students has a 11 year old daughter. She weighs 80 pounds. Apparently she is being bullied by a girl weighing almost 3 times her weight (240lbs). He want's me to show his daughter how to handle herself.

Really, I can't really think of anything that she can learn quick and dirty that would help in the above scenario. I suggested telling the teacher. He wants to bring her to his private lesson.

Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.

If my daughter was being threatened or intimidated or assaulted by a "bully" three times her size I'd be having words with her parent(s)...

And the school admin...

[Sagacious Lu]

I just got a call last night. One of my students has a 11 year old daughter. She weighs 80 pounds. Apparently she is being bullied by a girl weighing almost 3 times her weight (240lbs). He want's me to show his daughter how to handle herself.

Really, I can't really think of anything that she can learn quick and dirty that would help in the above scenario. I suggested telling the teacher. He wants to bring her to his private lesson.

Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.

Personally I think getting the teacher(s) and principal involved should be the first step. For one thing fighting in schools these days carries much harsher punishments than it did once upon a time. The other problem is that kids have fights with each other that they out grow; teaching her MA (judo immediately springs to mind) is certainly a good idea but it will take her time to get proficient and the problem needs to be addressed quickly. Teaching her to stand up to the bully might help; sometimes the shock of facing an opponent that's fighting back is enough to deter a bully. Then again it might just get her a beating- especially since the bully has a huge size advantage. Without knowing more about the individuals it's hard to say. It's probably just the typical childish BS that everyone goes through at some point but depending on what community this is happening in some kids are armed and ruthless- in which case maybe the police should be involved.

[Hardball]

I just got a call last night. One of my students has a 11 year old daughter. She weighs 80 pounds. Apparently she is being bullied by a girl weighing almost 3 times her weight (240lbs). He want's me to show his daughter how to handle herself.

Really, I can't really think of anything that she can learn quick and dirty that would help in the above scenario. I suggested telling the teacher. He wants to bring her to his private lesson.

Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.

[Hardball]

I drilled her more in the Stick and Knife than the other stuff, and she's clever enough to modify the techniques in a situation when she's unarmed too. When training, I pull my power a little, not too much, but I come at her with speed. I want her to have fast reflexes, she's not slow these days. Not blinding fast (yet), but definitely not slow.

How do you teach courage and tenacity?

[jubaji]

Who is supposed to be stopping me from having my way?

Everyone who points out your bullshit everytime you try to post lies and nonsense, you no-class, lying little theory-boy punk.

[Uke]

Uke, you are completely full of shit. You also sound like a 3-year old throwing a tantrum because you can't have your way.

Which one of you idiots is supposed to be stopping me from having my way? Don't get mad because we paid attention when you wrote that you have no heart and would lay down before fighting for your life. Oh I forgot, and get in on hard shot.

A moron and a coward to the end.

[Ben Grimm]

I drilled her more in the Stick and Knife than the other stuff, and she's clever enough to modify the techniques in a situation when she's unarmed too. When training, I pull my power a little, not too much, but I come at her with speed. I want her to have fast reflexes, she's not slow these days. Not blinding fast (yet), but definitely not slow.

[Sagacious Lu]

Uke, you are completely full of shit. You also sound like a 3-year old throwing a tantrum because you can't have your way.

[Hardball]

I taught my wife some WC combined with some CQC, and that includes some stick and knife that was taught in the curriculum. I know she can take care of herself, but I'd love to give her more of an edge.

Stick and knife is good. I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing my Woman was out and about armed with only Wing Chun techniques. My lady is slowly getting comfortable with the thought of owning and being proficient with a pistol. Watching horror movies together really helps. LOL

[treelizard]

I'm not even going to waste my breath addressing all the lies in your post. What's funny is that you claim to know so much about WSD that you don't even know how the class is set up, what they actually teach and how they actually teach it--so how can you on good faith recommend it? Doesn't seem to stop you though. *yawn*